Wow how estrange are you from family?

Well I just found out I have a sister. She's 2. I live with my dad and never been close with her. She's remarried. It's cool to know I guess. I always wanted a sister too bad I don't see that family much. I haven't been around that family for 3 years. I like my dad's family it's just nicer for me. Anyway what about you?

 

anyone?

 

Shes 2 years old and married?

 

no I was talking about mom lol.

 

My family was quite dysfunctional and toxic for me when I was 17, so I left on my own and after a few years severed all contact with them. It was the best thing I ever did for myself.

In my opinion, family members are not sacred, not even your mother. Unless they are a positive influence on you there is no good reason to allow them any more rights over you than a total stranger. If a stranger attempted to injure you in some way, what would you do? You'd stay away from him, of course.

If you want to have contact with your family, great, you should. I'm just saying, I've made friends who treat me much better than my family did, and this makes me happy.

 

As of now, completely estranged. I'm living with my boyfriend now. My mom does not speak to me, and I barely keep in touch with my sister. I really miss my nephew a lot.

I just found out today that my mom cut me out of the health insurance so that's nice... I take synthroid for hypothyroidism, and she knows I don't have money to pay for the medication I need, so it's really upsetting to know that she doesn't care if my health fails because I don't have the means to get my pills without the insurance card.

 

I have 3 half sisters and 3 half brothers

My mother is a ex-convict & raging alcoholic who gives me drugs

My father is a strict stern irish leprechaun who forces his parenting down my throat and has been doing so since the day I was born, pressuring me unfairly through all aspects in life all to achieve his dreams.

I am an only child with my parents. They divorced when I was 8.

 

I don't know how to pronounce my last name. I have never met the man I got it from and am not related to him, though it appears on my birth certificate. I've only been using the name since 1988 or so; previously I was using a name that was not legally mine.

In theory my actual father had a family of his own; I know none of these people, or what their names are. Dad himself is dead as far as anyone can tell [last arrested for vagrancy in 1971]. I have never used his name and am not sure how it is spelled.

My stepfather, whose name I was using illegally [he never adopted me], is a person I have not spoken to in over 30 years. I would hang up the phone if he called, but he won't. Good riddance, drop dead.

Have recently re-opened communications with my mother [tentatively] and half-brother [completely], after not speaking with either of them for many years.

Apparently there are other maternal relatives floating around but beyond knowing that some exist I do not know more. My maternal grandmother is dead and unmourned. Her hatred of my mother was largely responsible for all of this mess.

 

i just met my dad for the first time in 14 years and it turned out that my moms family has been lieing to me for all those year about him trying to contact me, they wouldn't even tell me his name. my biological mom gave me to my aunt to take care of and i haven't seen her in like 7 years. i sorta feel like my real dad's family owe's me something but idk

 

None of my kids call me unless they really need something, but my son always responds quickly to any text messages I send him. My oldest daughter usually responds, but lately it seems she's only doing so out of duty, and sticks to answers of just a few words.

When my husband and I decided to walk away from our underwater mortgage, I decided I did not want to stay in my home town (a small town where everyone knows everyone else's business), so we moved to the Seattle metro area. This did not make my youngest daughter (who turned 16 in December) happy, and she constantly complained about missing her friends, even though we tried to make sure she got to visit as often as possible (nearly every weekend). When she resisted getting used to her new school, I broke down (after only two months!) and enrolled her in online high school, but apparently that wasn't enough either. A short while later (last April), she threw a major hissy fit while we were in the middle of helping my son (her brother) with a crisis. At that point, I decided there was nothing for it but to have her move back in with her dad. She hasn't called me since, won't answer her phone or return my calls, and stopped responding to text messages (for the most part) since July of last year. I've always been very close to my kids, so this is breaking my heart, and is especially difficult now that my husband and I are homeless for the time being (living with his dad).

I've always tried to make sure I call my parents at least once a week, but even when we lived in the same town, they didn't come by and see us much--in fact, they would often leave things for me at my ex's house! However, whenever my brother or sister (who live in the same town) need anything, they jump--yet my mother is convinced they treat all of us the same, and supposedly I'm my dad's favorite.

Sometimes I really think we'd all be better off without family of any kind :frown:

 

The only family I have is my mother whom I live with and have a good relationship with, her parents who live not far from here and have good relations with them.
My brother, niece, nephew, and his girlfriend in Michigan.

Father is also in Michigan not much of a relationship there though.

As far as the entirety of the rest of the biological family.. I have tried reaching out to them but they don't seem to want anything to do with me. That hurt my feelings but it is what it is.

My biological family doesn't seem to really know how to be close with one another really detached.. could be a lot worse though.

 

i supposedly have 2 sisters and a brother from mi father but idk i have never met mi father or his family he has supposedly been married for years, and wen i mean years i think its been maybe 30 years. im 20 years old and have no clue who he is....

 

My family is geographically dispersed and communicate with each other every day on Facebook, and I don't even have a Facebook account, and don't want one. I guess that would classify me as estranged since Facebook is a central part of their lives.

 

I am completely estranged from my "family of origin" (mother, father, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins) and have been for more than three years now. Most of them are highly toxic individuals, and I can't afford to stay in contact with those who are not because they've shown their willingness to proxy for the others.

My parents are both from large families, and grew up in poverty being neglected and abused. It's really a wonder that they survived childhood -- and being the people they had to become to survive it made it a wonder that I survived my childhood, too. I mostly maintained limited contact with them since attaining adulthood, but then about five years ago my parents were in dire need of help so my wife and I agreed to turn our happy lives upside down to go help them... I could have gone the rest of my life perfectly happily without the extremely costly knowledge I gained from that experience.

While it's true that I gained some previously missing insights into my life and why things were as they once were, I was really very happy having just accepted them as mysteries and going on with my life.

On the up side, my life is a bit happier today than it was before that terrible adventure and I'm glad to be completely free of the disruptive influence of what used to be my family. It's good being a 50 year old orphan.

 

Just about three years ago, I learned that was adopted. My biological family lives about six hours away.

At that time, my adoptive father had just died, and my adoptive mother was--and is--in a nursing home with severe dementia. For obvious reasons, I'll never get any information from them.

My biological parents died years ago, and my (four) biological siblings tell me it's just as well I never got to know them. I've become close to my biological siblings and one cousin. It's great to meet people who look like me...at last.

I figure it's a second chance to have a family. I can't say that I'm hostile to my adoptive family, but I have so little to say to them.

 

I'm sorry to hear that Principessa, I haven't spoken to my mom, step-dad or brother in 2 years because my mom and I aren't on speaking terms. She has this mind control thing over me and is very manipulative and fucked in the head, just being around her makes me crazy. So I choose to not talk to her and ever since I made that choice my life has been a lot better. I do miss my brother more than words can describe.

P.s.- Hypothyroidism is nothing to fuck with, please take good care of yourself

 

medicaid? community health center?

I heard of a pharmaceutical company that had a program to lower costs for people who could not afford their drugs

you might be able to get a drug cheaper through mail order than pick up at a pharmacy

 

why not send him a letter? your mom might tear it up, but at least some day you could let him know that you honestly tried to get in touch with him

you could send it registered mail as proof

 

^ for everyone

:grouphug:

 

i have a close family

nobody is estranged

we all love each other and spend a lot of time together.