Wow! I'm Pissed Off!

Ok so a couple of weeks ago a couple of "friends" of mine and I arranged to have a little birthday party for my old lady which happens to be on 4/20 at my "friends" house. Well now everyone is backing out and making up bullshit excuses to not be there because I asked everyone to pitch in on the weed and booze...it's only fair it's HER birthday and I already said I was getting the cake, food and mixers. This is the same fucking friend that I went to visit EVERY FUCKING DAY in the hospital when she was sick, I took her food, and stuff to read and shit she needed from her house because her husband is a dead beat asshole and now that I need them they aren't there for me. FUCK THIS I no more friends for me, I'm tried of giving and giving and giving and no one else appreciating it. Fuck them!

 

People over the age of 20 celebrate 4/20? I think you have larger problems than poor attendance at a birthday party. It's no fucking surprise 20 somethings attending a birthday/420 party don't want to contribute. Generally when I host a party, I don't ask others to chip in. It's poor etiquette. That's just my opinion.

 

Yeah that is shitty. Fair weather friends suck ass. But hey, at least you've got somebody, right? Fuck 'em.

 

its good you did that with the hospital thing...dont let her selfishness ruin it

people are people and a lot of times they dont think of the big picture

just keep being yourself and let Karma deal with it

 

BBAD is right, don't waste the energy of carrying anger/hate it ain't worth it.

 

It's pretty low, though, right? But yeah, best is to just let that crap roll off you. It's their shittyness, let it stick to them and be their problem.

-BlkBks

 

I hate dickhead s like that. I've gotten a thick skin over the years.

 

Thank you guys (minus Friden), your right. Fuck em' all, I'm just gonna make the best of it and give her some good birthday sex. I gotta stop letting people get to me. Wait wait....are you on my side or my friends side Friden, I'm pissed and I think I misread that.

 

I'm not on anybody's side. I think if it's your gf's
birthday party, you should foot the bill. Also, I think 4/20 parties and anybody who
celebrates the day are stupid. That's just like my opinion, man.

 

Wow really? You have bad manners then, because EVERY party I've been to everyone has brought either food, a bottle, or green to pitch in! It's called having good manners and smokers etiquette!!!!

 

I'll absolutely bring something to a party, and I will even ask the host/hostess if there is something they would like me to bring. I would not, however, expect somebody to help pay for a party I'm hosting or even demand that guest bring something.

 

a bring your own weed party lol

gives a whole new meaning to a potlatch party

 

I kind of agree with Frieden by the way...its kind of like a wedding invitation where they ask for cash instead of a gift...its a real turn-off

 

Even though 0 out of 5 members didnt like that post, I'd have to agree with Frieden there.

Edging 30, and you'll notice it more and more, they'll all start to turn into tightwads.

Becuase it starts to register, what am I spending all my money on with this partying and carrying on, it jt goes down the drain, got to start thinking about health insurance, saving for a mortgage, have some saving in case I loose my job, then there is the whole cost of breeding for the ones you know

Even money for the daily soy milk latte starts to count, so dont expect anymore than for them to bring a cheap bottle of wine.

BYO weed and booze? They'll assume there will be a certain amount of freeloaders there who dont bring anything and thus they'll have to share, weed and booze 70/80 bucks easy weed vapourises quickly so they only end up getting a couple cones from their 50. All for some lesbians birthday who gets more sex than them ( thats how they think)

As for your friend you helped in hospital with the deadbeat husband, its because all her spare change gets sunk into the deadbeat husband, she turns up to this thing with no goodies going to make her feel like one of the freeloaders everyone else is going to give bitchface to.

Expect this and plan ahead in your 30s, especially with yhe breeders, that costs a lot more than any of them are prepared to admit, and thus just expect more from you, its nit a gay thing, same attitude with their straight friends that dont have kids.

But it works both ways, not as often, but there are going to want to escape the routine every so often, just as long as it doesnt cost them anything. Of to a music festival, tickets pills, booze, water - 300 bucks easy. That kind of thing is out.

But a get together over your place, 20 bucks for a curry that feeds everyone, and casks of wine are cheap. A couple friends over, 3 casks of wine. You can do the whole thing for 50 bucks. Just say to them, come on over Saturday arvo, you dont need anything, we are going to get hammered on cheap plonk


Well that covers 30s, all about money. And enjoy that while you can, cos 40s something else happens, which you probaby dont want to know about. Suddenly they are back to having extra cash, but at the same time not as fussed about previous inhibitions, so you'll be forced to stick to your own kind anyway. Unless you are prepared to hold parties where everyone is wearing costumes that cover their faces, but nothing else, and up for handling three sausages at once of all those deadbeat husbands.

And I know what your thinking, that cant be the way it is, that would just be a niche thing right? They cant all end up like that right, otherwise you'd be able to see evidence of it now, older people would warn you right? I've been there, you dont see it coming.


20s your the necessasry accesory, I'm cool I've got gay friends, even if those gay friends are dorky mutants. 30s they'll just assume no kids so you have spare cash. 40s they just assume gay means your a sex maniac and just itching to be the third wheel

 

Some can't identify with others, for whom money doesn't grow on trees. There's nothing wrong with asking for help.

 

Sure, there's nothing wrong with asking for help, if you dont mind leaving your pride and dignity at the door. However, I prefer to reserve doing so for when I've found myself dire situations. Again, that's just me.

 

did they actually say that it's because you asked for them to chip in, or did they just back out sometime after the request?

also, is it everybody or is it that one friend?

 

host a "dont bring fuckall party" they will surely come loaded ....hmm:afro:

 

And sometimes situations would not have become so "dire", if someone had been timely in asking for reasonable help. Waiting until the situation is "dire" is often a bad risk. "Pride" and "dignity" are just excuses for personal dishonesty, pretending to be something you aren't.

If you need help, ask for it.

People have become so used to the idea of accumulating "personal wealth" that they forget about the idea behind capitalism isn't just to hoard it, but to share it also with the less fortunate. Sometimes people need to be reminded of that.

It's one big earth, we share, or "ought to".

 

If I don't bring a crockpot full of my not so world famous ribs to a party I get shunned.