It usually helps to have someone to talk to,, Also, it could be nutritional,,or have nutritional solutions. How is your diet? What's your normal eating habit? Be sure to drink enough water. Anxiety kind of blinds a person. It filters and affects the perception. You don't realize in total how affected your thinking is, so you think it's just normal to be anxious at times, and it's not. I notice, when I talk with people about anxiety, people that aren't as anxious as I am, that it helps bring me out of my irrational worries. There are times when I can't do it alone. But when I have to, I go outside and walk a bit, walk around, talk with people, even with strangers, just casually. You'll find that your not alone, when you find someone who will listen, and isn't judgmental. But if you're serious, and desperate,, I meant what I said about calling out to Jesus. It may sound strange, and "religious", but don't let what you've heard or seen in wacko christianity turn you away. Jesus is real, even if his "followers" aren't.
I have dealt with a few bouts of anxiety and feeling hopeless, helpless and out of control - I have come to realize it is all self-constructed and it can be deconstructed with some deep breaths, rationalizing thoughts and reassuring yourself to the positive things of the situation. think of the future or something that you could walk away from the anxiety with. also meditating or talking to Jesus like arthur said is not bad. Talking to yourself, while thought of as crazy most often, is pretty normal and hearing your own voice aloud telling you that everything is alright and piecing things together to find out what you need to DO is very important. Find a place to start, unravel your fears, reservations and anxiety itself and then GET TO WORK on what you discover needs energy and time. The only thing stopping you is you.
Thanks for the advice everyone, I think i finally kind of found out why i have anxiety in the first place. One would probably think they are obvious issues, but i guess i just blocked them out for the longest time i ended up forgetting about them, yet subconsciously it all still caused me anxiety? I've never told anyone about these things, so i guess they've just been built up all this time making everything worse. I still haven't told anyone, nor do i plan on telling any 'real-life' people, but realizing it's the issue and facing it myself could also help too, i think.
I could tell you if you like, might be a pretty long post though I feel as if it's gotten so much worse during the past few days though. Normally my anxiety and feeling a little 'down' only lasts about a day or so, and i can go back to feeling normal and happy (still having anxiety, but at least happy) within hours, but it's been like... 5 days straight now? And i haven't gone back to being 'normal' yet... it's kind of freaking me out. And it's messing everything up, first i have all my anxiety issues which makes me not really want to talk to people, then my girlfriend gets upset because she thinks i just don't want to talk to her, which in the end gives me more anxiety which makes me want to talk less and less, and the cycle keeps going on and on... and now it's been 5 days with me barely talking to her at all, and the less i talk to her the more upset she gets so then the worse my anxiety gets, it's like i'm just digging this hole deeper and deeper... I just need to face what i think is causing my anxiety in the first place i guess, but i don't know how to do that...
5 days is nothin, man... not that i'm trying to get in a pissing contest. you're 17, you are bound to go through it. just let it take its course, don't fight it, but don't surrender to it either. you should be able to tell your girl how you feel, considering the amount that you talk to each other anyways. if it is something you need to deal with on your own - tell her that too. if she is any smart at all she will give you space and be there if you need her.
Start the strenuous journey of finding yourself. Too many people are scared to look into the mirror.. they develop suppressed fears, being self-conscious, paranoia. I've been through it, still trying to deal with it... Find something that speaks to you. Could be creating music, art, meditating, something that just takes everything away. I wouldn't recommend any drugs, maybe some herbal psychedelics like Ayahuasca (but that's hard to come by since your 17) Stop smoking weed, it only adds to paranoia, some say it chills people out but in the end all that anxiety is going to get amplified. Just relax, get out of the busy world for a bit.. Find what you think is important in your life. If all else fails, get to a psychiatrist, get a 9-5, become an alcoholic. (In any order)
That's true, it was a lot better today... The past few days have just been messed up in general, but me and her are better now, anxiety still hasn't gone down at all though I... don't get it I try to do stuff like art, making music, meditation, etc... but i've realized i have a really short intention span and quit everything before it's even nearly finished... And yea i've been considering stopping weed for a while now... i keep saying i will, but i never really do, smoking weed has just become apart of my daily routine, i could go without it if i really had to... but, i really don't want to at the same time, being sober sucks, if i had another drug to replace the weed for a while i would And i don't think we have to worry about that, i hate alcohol lol Well i dunno if it's a seizure thing, because it happens a lot... like almost all the time, it's happening right now... Look into depersonalization/derealization, that pretty much describes it exactly so i'm pretty sure it's that, which is caused by anxiety, so anxiety here is the root cause, because i know i have sever anxiety from many other symptoms
orison's post was basically saying that you should stop drinking so much caffeine. it contributes a lot to anxiety. cut out caffeine and weed for a month or two, and start getting regular sleep and exercise, and you'll most likely notice some big improvements. if you think that being sober sucks and thats why you smoke pot (despite the fact that it's probably at least contributing to your anxiety problems), then you need to take a good look at your drug use.
Have you ever tried breathing exercises? They seem to help me a lot. They have a lot helpful books on anxiety you should check them out. Hope things is getting better, keep posting! I'll be here to listen, I deal with anxiety a lot.
Ahh i see, makes sense. I rarely drink caffeine though, it's just that when i do it's a lot. But i agree with the sleep, i usually only get 5 hours or less, plus being burnt out every morning. And i'll cut back on the weed... Starting after friday lol But that's not the only reason i smoke weed, i also smoke it because it helps me sleep and gain weight, plus i usually only smoke at night anyways so it doesn't really interfere with my actual life.
oh man, at your age (assuming you actually are 17) you need to be getting much more than 5 hours of sleep! change that one thing and you'll probably notice a difference.
Yes I agree. I've been going to bed by 11:30 now and listen to meditation music while going to sleep. If I stay up tok many days in a row I'll get bad anxiety and start to get manic.
haha yes i'm actually 17, but yea that's what i thought too, a lot of my anxiety might just be exhaustion? I'm usually never able to fall asleep until about 1am-ish though, and have to get up at 6am for school...
Last year my daily routine was smoking weed and getting little to no sleep (sometimes going a couple days without sleep). It was a horrible way to live, burnt out in the morning, doing it again at night. Trust me it's not worth it, you can have your toke here and there but it needs to be manageable. Strengthen your discipline, self-restraint, don't worry bro i am in the same boat. I start things and never finish them, it's a process but i found that you really just have to suck it up and do it. It's hard, but so is the feeling of being depersonalized from the world due to anxiety. You are not alone
