How would you feel if you told a friend something 'heavy' and made them promisie they would not tell a particular mutual friend else you would be mortified.... ...only to find then a couple of days later that 'identified' friend asked you about a subject that you had not talked about ever before ie the subject you spoke with first friend? I know I have not given many details, other than above - in a way details are not really that important. Hope you can understand and leave any comment. Thanks
I would think the first person was not a friend. I also would not trust him/her with anything other than what anyone could know about you. The second person is not likely a friend either although it really depends on what this is all about. I tend to be a listener and many people know that they can tell me things that will never see the light of day again. If I don't want someone to find out what I think about something, then I just don't talk about it to anyone.
People can't seem to keep their mouths shut, can they? Not making light of your situation, but I've found this to be very common.
I would think it was not nice of the first person, but then again, there's lots of things that you really can't expect to be kept secret, especially by people in some situations, no matter what they say BEFORE you tell them the secret. If you don't want anyone to know, don't tell anyone.
there is no such thing as a secret how could you expect a friend to keep it when you yourself couldn't
First, it's not a secret if you share it. Second, if the friend you share it with goes against their word ans shares it with someone else, you cannot trust them, and neither can anyone else.
People tend to think its okay to tell just one other person... come on..some of you guys know you're guilty of it. Its not that you want to gossip, its that for the same reason it was such a big secret in the first place, the secret weighed heavily on you. So heavily that you felt you just had to tell someone else. Someone you know you can trust with someone else's secret. I don't think I've ever told someone a secret without it getting out to someone else. It sucks, but like I said, I know it wasn't done in a gossipy or malicious manner. You trust the person to whom you divulge the secret for a reason: they care. They tell other people because they care and can't get it off their brain. Okay, sometimes they're gossipy little bitches. But usually they simply care. Lesson learned: sometimes you have to keep your own secrets.
Yeah, no one really knows how to keep a secret. I've known maybe one or two people who can seemingly keep their mouths shut but it's just not that way with everybody. Like what's been said, it's best to keep some shit to yourself.
I've had it happen to me, I told a 'very close' friend something and they told more than 1 other person. It happened nearly 6 years ago now and I haven't spoke to her since. Also I ended up moving so I wasnt so close to them,which was the best thing I did for myself
I would be pissed and I would confront them and then never see them again. I have really good friends that care for my welfare. Yet I know which ones to tell which secrets. One in particular knows much about me, but the reverse is true so with mutual deep secrets, we are both safe.
I never tell secrets to anyone. If I did it wouldn't be secret anymore, anyway. If you decided to tell, you had to be avare that there is small chance that he won't keep it.
