Mind versus instinct ( the classic)

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by pazyamor, Apr 27, 2012.

  1. pazyamor

    pazyamor Member

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    The classic story about one person that desires another EVEN if that person has a relationship of many years...

    Ok, I don t know how to manage my situation, Im a girl (22) and I have been in a relationship with another girl for 4 years...
    The bad thing comes when I realized (well, I have always known this) that Im hetero, and suddenly a really really handsome man appears in my life, and when I talk to him or even just see him, I feel so attracted to him... I cant help it...( no doubt he feels the same) And more because I havent had sex with a man for about 5 years, and I need it, I have dreams about this...
    But, I dont want to cheat my girlfriend, I feel bad because I love her and she is very jelaous....
    So, what can I do? Im confuzed ... its a horrible fight:
    mind versus instinct.
    (What I think has nothing to do about what I feel....HELP).
    Thanks for the answers!!!

    Peace!
     
  2. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    if you've always known you were hetero, then what the hell have you been doing leading on some random girl for the last 4 years?
     
  3. Strawberry_Fields_Fo

    Strawberry_Fields_Fo RN

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    Agreed. Get out of that relationship as soon as possible. It's not fair to drag her on like this. This isn't a question of mind vs instinct, it's a question of treating others as you would want to be treated. Simple, really.
     
  4. pazyamor

    pazyamor Member

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    Ok, you may be right...
    The question is that she knows, from the begining of our relationship., that Im hetero
    And I have an enormous love for her....
    But is just a question about sex... I dont know.... Im so confuzed..


    Peace...
     
  5. Asmodean

    Asmodean Slo motion rider

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    What a drama... Oh wait, if she knows why can't you talk to her about this issue and get the confusion out of the way?
     
  6. thedope

    thedope glad attention Lifetime Supporter

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    If the girlfriend knows you are hetero it may be that she would understand or maybe even be willing to invite a third, male party to your relationship.

    Another, intellectual consideration is if she knows, does she think you will change and is the prospect for change what keeps her with you. If she is against your heterosexuality, then she is not for you, but for herself against you.

    There is nothing wrong with your instinct but I think your intellect is a little less than up on the facts if you have a question about it.
     

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