So I went to a party on Fri..

and I had no desire to express my opinion or be apart of any conversation. :| Total ego-less just sat around and listened to everyone's conversations. Approached a couple people 1 on 1 so I didn't look too stupid, but overall way too freakin mature and calm for a party environment.

WhattheFizz. Don't like. Was very inconvenient and made for a not-so-positive time. Anyone else struggle with this in the past? What's going on?

 

Lol sure. People are just awkward sometimes, and just want to fit in and be cool. Maybe go with hard liquor next time instead of beers. That's the axle grease of social lubricant

 

You were at the wrong party at the wrong time, I'm not sure why but it can happen to everyone. Could be the people, or the music, or your mindset, or lame convo's, tiredness of these kind of vibes (can be temporal), could be the weed or the drinks, or some worries you had in the back of your head or a combination of things, etc. etc.

 

Perfect time for petty theft.

 

how did you get into a party?

no one invites me to a party

were there balloons?

 

yeah...keep the relevant advice coming.. I need it lol.

Also, this may be dumb but, I feel it takes a certain amount of immaturity to just blab blab your shit to others. I'm also far too objective when it comes to things, seeing both sides right away, so I never have a 'strong' opinion to share. Just kind of nod and agree while I have the boring right answer in the back of my mind (but of course you can't share that).

^ I'm sure there are some that relate to this? What do you do?

 

first...maybe you should stay away from the sweet sixteen parties

ok i got that out of the way lol

yes yes yes you absolutely can say your view or your ''right'' opinion...it just takes a bit of grammatic finesse to not offend the fuck out of the host of the party.....thats me...i am not shy and if i am not the life of the party than i identify who is and get them drunk

 

Haha yes, I can relate very well to that! By the way, the strongest way to feel like that is entering a party that is going for some time while you're being sober. Especially when you're the designated driver (always avoid this at parties).

 

Why be petty about it?

I have never been good at parties unless I was a host. Even then the entourage can't be too large or I don't have time to relate to everyone adequately and may have well kept the gathering more intimate. Without intimacy it seems to me just so much posing.

 

Ha! I agree dope, and who says iPods are petty u.u
I'd never do such a thing, however.
Ppl get fucked up for doing shit like that here...

 

I try to stick to orgies. If it`s not funny or heartfelt, why say anything? I`d rather be a doer than a doodler. Especially when I can do more than one woman at a time.

 

Agreed! I can definitely relate as well. Come on, if everyone's getting drunk, there's crappy music playing, the conversations suck, and it feels like you're getting in people's ways-it's NOT your fault. It's the party goer's faults.

Bring some weed, psychedelics, put on some "Regular Show" or "Adventure Time", some good music, people who are friendly and don't judge. Now THAT'S a party. A real HIP party.

I'm 19, and I still feel like people's definition of "party" these days really sucks. Vibes play a huge part, too.

 

I'm not big on partying or socializing in large groups anymore.

If its a small group of people I know and enjoy being around then I'm fine, but other than that, I remain pretty quiet and hidden in the background.

 

Fuckin' a! I went to a college party this past saturday and it sucked ass! Terrible food, shitty music and boring people. Me and my friend just walked around, not doing much whenever we weren't in his dorm. Some weed and booze would have went a long way but we were shit outta luck. Best we could get was Miller Lite, ugh.

 

maybe u just weren't drunk enough. lol.

 

it seems like you just werent in party mood you know ...

thats why they invented alcohol

keep drinking until the party is fun

 

^ Nah.. I really have become incapable of being a voicebox. I like relating with others, and talking to them through their conversation, but if I was told to speak on my own, for the sake of speaking, I can't anymore. :/ There's another social thing this next Fri.. we'll see how I do. I refuse to lose in this area!

 

That`s all good until you realize drinking by yourself is even funner.

 

How old are you?

I get the same way at parties sometimes. It takes a certain amount of extraversion to feel comfortable, and lots of people swing between introvert and extravert. You just weren't in the mode.

Also, I'm not sure maturity has a lot to do with it. It's a great excuse, mind-you, but I think the most mature thing to do is to be able to assess your mental state and use it as effectively as possible in whatever situation you find yourself in.

Next time, try to psych yourself up a bit. Don't go straight from a dark, quiet room to the party. Go out with some friends first, pre-drink, whatever. It also helps to have a little 'pod' of people you know at the party--If you're not naturally extraverted, it helps to have some comfortable social anchors to fall back on when you're not mingling.


Good luck.

 

Why do parties automatically have to be associated with drinking? Screw society. If I ever throw a party, it's gonna be weed and psychedelics only! :hippy:

(Well, probably only weed for now, considering psych's are harder to come around at the moment.)