Married for over 30 years

but can't stop having thought about being with other guys... it's not like I want to be with live with another guy just have some fun and leave it at that. My wife has a very low sex drive. once a month if I'm lucky with 30 second oral and a hand job. What should I do ??

 

I think that if you can talk to your wife about you having another sex partner and she'd be open to it, then you should.

On the other hand, if you're absolutely sure that she would be opposed and you value the relationship with her, I wouldn't.

I wouldn't go behind her back for sex.

No sex is worth the Hell of a bomb exploding in a relationship that you don't wish to kill.

That's my opinion.

 

Seconded.

Also, it seems like seeking out things outside of the relationship that should first be dealt with internally. Have you talked to your wife about this?