Is this wrong?

My wife does NOTHING sexual for me, she asks if I'm horny and when I say yes. She gets quiet and ignores my answer. During the day when we're at work, she offer sex via text, when we get home, more NOTHING!

I've been asking for head for months!

Her's my question, she's planning on buying a treadmill Friday. More likely it'll need put together. Should I boycott putting it together until I get the sex I want?

 

Maybe boycott putting it together until the two of you can talk about why you aren't having sex.

 

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^ I agree with the above post. Middle grounds man.

 

Thats 3 to 1...guess I'll ask and see. Looking forward to her response.

Edit: See below

 

Very true!

 

It really starts there. You have to find out why. If you can't talk how can you expect really good lovemaking?

 

Maybe she is on boycott waiting for you to do something she wants. You want her to do something for you. When have you done something for her? Something she wants you to do, that is.

 

We had a small convo this morning, she claims I put too much emphasis on sex. She says she has to balance out her life, school, social life and sex life. Her words are bigger than her actions. i know the saying is the other way, but with her it's different.

 

Why did you marry her? OR, why did she marry you?

An oral contract is legally enforceable. When you tell her you will provide sex tonight and she agrees, you are obligated to provide sex. Or if you say; "I will do the dishes for the next seven days if you give me a BJ today." and she agrees then you are obligated to wash dishes.

It is like Wimpy saying "I will pay you Thursday for a hamburger today."

Mutal assent: An offer and an acceptance.
Promise
Bargain
Consideration
Reciprocally
Sufficiency
Consent

 

I'm sorry your frustrated. Most girls hate giving oral.

 

That's crazy sad, before marriage, she had no problem before. One time I had a hidden camera, she did a good as job , then she murdered the tape.

 

She was the shit when we were dating, a year after she said "I do", I started hearing "no" more than ever.

After this mornings convo, she said she wants me to not be on porn sites so much and to wait for her to initiate sex with me. Denying me sex and askin me to spot or slow down on the porn is messed up. We've had almost identical conversations basically sayin that she'll "try" to be more sexual and initiate more. Sadly, I think this is the third go round on that.

I asked her what I could do to get more sex, she never actually answered the question. We'll her answer was lets create a better bond.

 

damn Homie, maybe you do place too much emphasis on sex. how often do you watch porn?

 

Wait you hid a camera on your wife to film her giving you head? maybe that's why she's a little turned off of it now... lol

 

Maybe she wants the treadmill to feel sexier by working out.

Take a second and think about if her confidence levels are low. Maybe she doesn't wanna get naked. I know I've been feeling that way for a while with my husband. Granted, we're having sex, but I feel like I'm not completely into it because I just keep thinking about my body since I put on so much weight.

Talk to her about how she's feeling before boycotting the assembly of something that could make her feel good.

 

1 or 2 times a day, but I never ask her to watch. It's something I keep to myself.

that was 7 years ago...I'm allowed to tape now

Her confidence seems the same as always, she gained very little weight but her weight never bothered me. She was bigger when we married. I've been trying to talk to her about it, she'll dodge a question if she doesnt want to answer it. So far this week, she did it twice.

 

she only murdered the tape!if i was your wife i'd have murdered ya with the tape for doin' that. i'd say the fact that you did that is why she's gone off sex with ya.how can the woman chill an enjoy what she's doin' when she's possibly thinkin' ,where did he hide the camera this time? that was a huge breach of trust.a breach of trust she probably still has'nt really got past.talk to her.but most importantly listen to her.an hopefully she'll learn ta trust you again.but only you can earn it!goodluck ta both of ye.

 

Well, the camera I used was a loaner and I havent had one since. I have a numerous amount of cell phone videos and never showed anybody those. I ask or just start tapin, but she knows and even seen them.

I listen and I do what is asked, but how long am I suppose to be "listening"? When is she supposed to come around?

 

I think that there are bigger problems here than sex. If she told you she wants to bond more, then do what it takes to bond with her. Some women have to feel really emotionally connected to feel sexual. Take her out on a date, do something sweet for her, do something you guys used to do (not related to sex) that will remind her of the times in your relationship when she did want to have sex with you.

talk to her and ask her why she doesn't feel connected to you. Ask her what the problem is; not the sexual problem but the overall problem.