How do i make my sex life better?

So ive been dating this girl from my college since october of last year. Im 18 and shes 19. We are in a relationship and she seems happy, but when it comes to our sexual life shes told me several times i dont satisfy her. Ive been with one other girl before her, whom i dated for two years and the sex was great in both our views. I know im still a kid but please non of that abstinance stuff, im always responsible and i always have protected sex. Anyhow back to the girl im currently with. She was a virgin before she met me. I think perhaps she was expecting sex to be this amazing thing but in my view you have to work up to that. She says i never please her and shes never orgasmed before. I have made her orgasm several times through oral sex however. I always finish before she does when we are having sex but most of the time im not fully erect. She doesnt turn me on as much as id like. And sex was awkward at the beginning and sort of still is sometimes. I mean i think i know what im doing but she sorta doesnt but she expects sex to be this awesome thing even though its her first times. the first time we tried it from behind i couldnt even put it in because of how awkwardly she was bending over. She jerks me of a lot and i think she thinks i enjoy it a lot which sometimes i do but most of the time she hurts me because of how she holds it. I mean if you jerk me for a long time im going to finish, it doesnt mean i will enjoy it however. i dont think its my penis size, im 7 1/4 inches long and 5 1/2 inches in girth but maybe it is my size. I get kind of put down because she tells me straight up i dont satisfy her but i would like to. She even gets furious after we have sex because she didnt orgasm. Last time after we had sex, shes was totally pissed because she didnt finish. She was being such a jerk to me. Shes never been that rude to me before and it caught me of guard. It made me feel unwanted. Its to the point where i dont want to have sex with her because i fear shell get mad. Is there something i can take to make me last longer or make me harder? Or what are some tips to reach her g-spot and make her orgasm. She says she orgasms in under a minute when she masturbates because of her g-spot. How exactly do you find it? I know its a few inches up her vaginal cavity but i cant find it. What are some sex positions to hit her spot? So i want yalls opinions of my situation. Other than this shes an awesome girl whom i want to be with.

 

Honestly, you don't seem to be the one with the problem. It's definitely not your size. This girl sounds like an immature bitch who watched a few pornos and is now expecting to come from vaginal penetration alone (it won't happen...something like 2% of women can do that). The g-spot (it's on the front side of the vag, about 2-3 inches in, it feels rougher than the rest of the tissue) doesn't magically make you come, you are nearly certainly going to need clitoral stimulation to get her there. That's why she comes so easily from oral. It is not a failure on your part, it's a failure of her juvenile expectations (possibly due to dishonest porn...don't get me started...)

The fact that she ridicules you because she can't orgasm shows a total lack of respect for you, and complete ignorance of human sexuality. The female orgasm is a 2-way street. If you don't know anything about your own body, it's completely illogical to expect someone with a different type of body to know anything about yours. Also, the majority of it is mental. I can masturbate all day, but if I'm thinking about my grocery list I'm not going to get anywhere.

This girl has a lot to learn, but you don't have to be her teacher. I say find someone with a mature understanding of what it means to be in a sexual relationship with another person. This isn't masturbation, you actually have to think about someone other than yourself now, something I don't think she's likely to get.

Sorry if I sound harsh, I just feel very strongly that mockery and humiliation have no place in the bedroom (unless you're into that kind of thing, I guess, haha). I also feel strongly that women shouldn't always lie back and take the passive route when it comes to sex, like men owe us an orgasm every single time, and if we don't get what we want we're somehow allowed to put them down and bitch about it. It's not going to kill her to rub her own clit once in a while. Being angry about it isn't going to help her come either. She's kind of dug herself a hole here. I think you may need to consider letting her go.

 

visit a glory hole in a wall of text..

 

Yea, she doesnt sound like a nice person, overly selfish. Since she didn't cum yet, she's put's you down. As a dude, that is a ego killer, I mean they'll fuck you up psychologically. The fact that your searching/looking for advice means your a good dude and care to make her achieve cumming.

My advice, have her rub her own clit (Strawberry Fields suggested this) while your doing the wild monkey dance. Do way more research on your own, that's what the internet is for. Look up two girls teach sex if you really want some how to's. There are positions that'll help you hit her spot that you've been looking for. An easy one is to put a pillow under her lower back, get on top and you'll be "hittin her spot".

PM me for info if you want.

 

Take the advise our friends have already given, but there is so much other stuff that can affect your time in bed. Are either of you a little tired? low-level stress from school? And please put the tape measure and protractor down. Your body is not a part of the problem.
My best nights came after an evening that gradually got more and more romantic, after sharing some laughs, getting to know her better. And it helps to have a cozy safe place to make love, not somewhere grimy or scary, no constant worry of someone barging in. (unless she's addicted to danger and that's not my kind of woman anymore).
Even great sex can get a little same-old same-old if she always knows what to expect and when to expect it. Your schedule and budget is bound to put some limits on you, but do your best to keep things fresh and unique.

Relationships tend to be more difficult for people in their teens. A few more years and communication skills will improve for both of you, but try your best and you'll find that better social intercourse can lead to better sexual intercourse.

 

Mate honestly your gf sounds like a bit of a bitch.

 

One episode of bitchin' you can write off as mood of the moment.
If this is ongoing, then it is character and not a passing mood.
When you are 18, you think you have to put up with bad personality traits and you really don't. Lots of girls, even very young ones are not the "it's all about me" type. She should be willing and eager to give as well as receive pleasure. She should want to know if it was good for you.
If I had to choose, I would prefer a girl who was a little bit on the blunt and abrupt side of the scale rather than a silent sulker, a passive-aggressive type. But a total bitch at all times? No way. There must be something going on in her life that we don't know about unless she is ridiculously immature.

Hate to say it, but he would be damned lucky to find a mature 18-year old girlfriend. If he drops this one, what are the chances he will find one who is ready for serious courtship, not just a sex partner for a few weeks in the sack until the novelty wears off?

About her he says, "shes an awesome girl whom i want to be with".
I have walked away from awesome girls several times because that doesn't mean that they are a good partner for the long haul. I hope I didn't make it sound easy to walk away, it ain't, but it's sometimes better than the alternative.

 

She should be masturbating herself while you are inside her. When you are both working toward the same goal it will work. She knows where her good spots are which she can reach by herself and will have no effect on your activities moving in and out of her vagina. Time it so she cums first.

Forget the G-Spot and head directly for her clitoris.

Meanwhile you should be looking for a new girlfriend; unless you actually like having your ego abused.

 

if porn is The sex , then she took the wrong road . tell her to come back . or buy her a big 10inch dildo . so she can fuck herself . stupid bitch .

 

let her loose, she will fall on a guy that can't even make her come at all

 

You guys are a match made in heaven. Congratulations.

Why? Because she's the prom queen?