Relationship or f buddy.. I'm confused what am I looking for?

Can someone please clarify what I need here? I've come out if a relationship a few mths ago. I really enjoy sex.. A lot of it! Ideally I would like someone who has a peaking sex drive that will have sex say 4 times a week (at least) and I don't mind if they see someone else. I don't want to share my life with them. I'm busy with work, kids and enjoy my own and a social life..a coffee with them or hang out a couple of times a week would be nice. But I don't want to come home from work each night to them or have to answer to them, I wouldn't be the same way with them either. I've had an argument with my friend about this she said f buddies do it once or twice a mth. I said 3-4 times a week, she said then you need a relationship..is she right? Is 4 times a week too much?

 

Its a tough one.

You could easily find someone to have sex with every night, but that plus a few coffees and chats now and then could easily grow into a relationship for the both of you over time.

You'll have to tell your lover everything you want straight from the word go.

Oh and four times a week is nothing really, depending on work hours and stuff, you could easily pull off eight times a week.

 

Good answer.. I agree about the coffee and hang out.. Let's just say we eliminate that then, and my friend was referring to the amount of times a week I wanted sex not about the coffee etc. I never mentioned that part to her. Eight times a week=awesome! I'm happy for him to come in have a session and leave so I can get on with the rest of my day

 

Btw..I like him I'm attracted to him and I'd rather just have sex with him than go from one guy to the next and to another I'll mention I'm 39 and he's 22, it's purely sex he's young and has his own life too

 

If it works for him, fine. But, I would prefer you had other lovers to fall back on to ease the expectations put on me. Why have only one fuck buddy?

How about two or three steady ones?

 

Due to the criteria you have, your search may be a little long but the reward of waiting should be good. Asking to get banged 3-4 times a week is fine. I would be wary to allowing them to have sex with other people, always be safe on that one.

 

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