So I haven't a clue how to explain this, but here goes. I am not even sure where to start, so follow up questions are accepted if I'm missing something. I'm a girl and I'm not overly sexual in the first place. I've been with my husband for a very long time. I can't say that I'm experienced , though I had partners before him (in my teenage years, how experienced can one truly be at that age). I noticed that when I have sex I get, the only way I can think to say it, is overstimulated. In any form of sex, oral or through penetration,even foreplay. There comes a point, usually a few minutes in where I end up pushing my partner off me because the feeling is too much. I don't want him touching me, NOTHING on me. It could be a sensitive area or heck at that my elbow. I just don't want him to touch me. I say overstimulated, but I don't know if that's even a possibility for women. I feel like a man who can't last. My husband out last me by far, however I don't have any orgasm. So it's not that I reach it and need to regroup, it's just that I don't want anyone to touch me (and this is true for masturbation also, so please don't say "get a new husband") It's so frustrating because I enjoy the activity and then to have him stop touching me and go straight to sex is frustrating to him and me both. I could understand if I reached an orgasm, which btw I have NEVER done before. I think that's just me over-thinking it. But that's a different story, maybe. So am I the only one out there whose "broken" this way? I want to enjoy sex and I want to have my husband enjoy it and would love to have an orgasm, eventually but a few minutes into sex bating his hand away isn't going to help me get there any quicker. Right now sex is about 80% him and 20% me in the enjoyment sector. I feel like I have sex for him, not with him and it's not his fault. He wants more than anything to please me, but it's me that is broken. So anyway, that's my problem. Does anyone understand this or have any advice, because I sure as hell don't.
I've heard of sexual problems like this but dont know of any clues on how to fix it. I understand being married and sexually frustrated. http://www.mylifetime.com/lifestyle/health/overstimulated-and-unsatisfied My initial ideal was ball and gag her, tie her to the bed real good and keep going but that might feel like rape to your husband After some thinking, try a desensitizing cream. Your husband may want to wear a condom because he'll become desensitized and will last longer. Other than those idea's see a sexual physician, but best of luck to you.
Look if he doesnt notice ur obviuos lack of enjoyment and satisfaction then you both need help... christ 80 20? Pretty sad ! My advice counseling for you AND him
No orgasm yet you are overstimulated and need to stop...hmmm try pushing through it and ride it out, see what happens, maybe you'll cum. Relax as best you can when in that state.
Are you serious? You are never going to accept the answer, you are just going to attack anyone that says it out loud
thats why I said gag her and tie her down. Try overcome the pain, you just might have a crazy orgasm.
