I've always been an introvert. In elementary school, I was the shy kid. Throughout middle school, I didn't have a ton of friends. In high school, I was the nerd that didn't party. I've always been comfortable taking a late night walk or watching a movie alone. Well, not completely. I don't want to be alone. I want someone introverted who enjoys being in a more intimate setting. Not necessarily sexual, but just close. I want to find someone who can appreciate stealing away from everyone else to experience the serenity of silence. I want someone to "walk around the world" with (http://xkcd.com/77/ explains my feelings). The quiet types always attract me. I'm tired of the attention-seekers and those who are always talking about some airheaded topic. Earlier tonight, I was at the club again hoping to meet someone. It has taken me too long to realize that the chance of finding someone my type in my area is astoundingly low. Introverts, in my opinion, don't find clubs and bars to be the most fun place to spend a Friday night. Come to think of it, I don't even really enjoy nightclubs or dancing for hours on end either. I'm in a place where transportation is flaky and sketchy, so I can't easily travel to more promising places. I've been mindlessly trying too hard to be someone I'm not in order to find someone who's not my type. |==> DUMB I don't actually enjoy bitching online either, but whatever. That's what the whiners forum is for, right? Patience.
I was also an introvert, bookish, shy, and extremely so, when I was young. The only friends I had were just a few guys who either lived on my block, surfed, or smoked together. My first gf was actually after my best friend, and using me to get to him. All of my introversion got transformed later on in life. Now I'm almost an extrovert, I would say. The change happened gradually, but was helped along by having jobs where you simply could not survive by being shy. I landed a job doing highway maintenance, working with quite a colorful group of guys, and a few girls as well,,rough along the edges types. You couldn't just sit there silent. Working together on the freeway was risky enough, without having someone on the crew who wasn't willing to communicate. Eventually, I got used to communicating. Now, years later, I perform frequently in musical settings. I actually seek out people now, instead of holing up by myself. So, work, and music were the prime motivators. I'm not saying that introversion is wrong. But you'd be surprised how people can change and adapt to the situation, becoming someone quite different in ways than they once were. Now, I would say, I'm more balanced. I appreciate the alone times, and also the together times.
I wonder, why there is so many people like you hidden somewhere and I don't know any of them real life?
^ That sums it up! It's safer at home in my house! I don't have to deal with ANYTHING or ANYONE, just how I like it:2thumbsup:
Sounds like you were just a shy extrovert.. that got over most of the shyness. Being shy is nothing to do with introverts. Introverts can be very outgoing if they choose to but more often than not prefer solitude.
i switch back and forth, depends on my mood... in general I'm happier hanging out at home with my wife and maybe a friend or two than I am going out (unless it's to see a band i like). I hate going to nightclubs... if I go out its almost always to a pub where I can sit in a booth and not talk to randoms. nothing wrong with being introverted.
I think being shy and being introverted is connected a lot. Just saying. It does not has to do with each other but from my experience it can and is often the case.
I think it's all about the setting, sometimes in grade school I was the class clown, other times the weird kid who sat in the corner and enjoyed looking through textbooks. My best advice is to find somewhere you groove on, a coffee shop, bookstore, park, nature preserve, whatever! Go there often enough and you'll see people like you there multiple times, all you have to do is get in the right mindset and then have the courage to say hello! I've found for me this is a good way to meet people with similar tastes! Best of luck!
I'm not an introvert - quite the opposite - but we all have some times when we wanna be alone. You need to find more times when you wanna be sociable - it's not an innate thing, it's just an attitude. It's all about balance.
I am hidden. On one hand, I feel as if even if I move somewhere else, I will still feel the same. On the other, I think my experience is affected more by the people and less by the location. I'm struggling with deciding on where to live in the near future, and the social atmosphere in my current location is severely lacking. The problem is I don't know where to go. Maybe I'll find some hippies somewhere. Patience.
^^^ Ditto..... Almost... I would like to be able to be somewhere else but am pretty much stuck where I am at the moment.
