do any women acctually enjoy...

Discussion in 'Women's Forum' started by paix, Dec 17, 2004.

  1. paix

    paix Senior Member

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    giving blow jobs? I don't mean to to be lude at all, I'm really curious. I did it for the first time last night, and I gotta say, all I could think the whole time was "when will this be over?". Not at all enjoyable in my opinion.

    So, what I'm wondering is am I the only woman that feels this way? Do any of you like or dislike it?
     
  2. ForestNymphe

    ForestNymphe Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    No you are not the only one. Speaking for myself alone here, it depends on your partner. For one I love, it is a pleasure, something I initiate, and that seems to make all the difference. Like all first times, it get's better with experience.
     
  3. HappyHaHaGirl

    HappyHaHaGirl *HipForums Princess*

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    I guess it depends on the partner and what mood I'm in, but I generally enjoy giving more than getting.... Maybe I'm weird. I just don't like sitting there, I guess... haha
     
  4. mountaingirl

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    I do, but maybe that's just because i love to do that for my boyfriend. i don't know, for me it's an expression of love that i can give him. it just depends. it could be a great experience, or totally suck, no pun intended. i guess it just varies from person to person. peace.:)
     
  5. superNova

    superNova Member

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    def an issue for love and sex - and it has been on there many times :)
     
  6. dhs

    dhs Senior Member

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    haha, she probably posted it in here because she was lookin' for answers from the girls and not guys

    Oops, sorry girls
     
  7. Kiz

    Kiz Member

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    I don't like giving them. I will though - but I can't say it's my favourite activity.
     
  8. ihmurria

    ihmurria fini

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    I really enjoy giving them.... for a while. I don't like doing it for like 20 minutes straight or anything.. my mouth gets sore and it, well, gets a little boring quite frankly. My last guy started asking for it a lot more, and for longer durations... past the point where I was enjoying giving it anymore. At first it's fun though... nice knowing I can make a guy orgasm through talent and not just biology.

    Anyways, that said, it's fine if you don't like them. If you don't like swallowing, just keep a kleenex on hand... if you don't like giving at all (as in, it grosses you out, you'll never do it) that's fine but, well, in my opinion if you don't give, don't expect to get either (some guys are fine with it, each couple has their own dynamic, but tit for tat if you will)
     
  9. meishka

    meishka Grease Munky

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    holy damn, the hot chicks are in saskatchewan. or maybe it's just ontario that has a hotty shortage. anywho...umm...yea :)
     
  10. FallenFairy

    FallenFairy Senior Member

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    sometimes I can enjoy giving my man a blowjob and on other times I could just down right despise like right now i am sooooooo sick of giving my man head cuz I get no absolutely no reciprocation and it just pisses me off.
     
  11. meishka

    meishka Grease Munky

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    oh i always reciprocate. it's a must. give and thou shall recieve. hmmm, i think it's been the other way around for me. darn, now i want a blowjob mmmmm
     
  12. dawn_sky

    dawn_sky Senior Member

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    I enjoy it as foreplay. And it depends on the partner -- if I don't love him, he ain't gettin' that kind of lovin'! Occasionally I will suck my boyfriend off, but more often I just do it as foreplay, because I frankly don't want to get to the point where my mouth is sore & I'm bored! That avoids the whole "when will this be over?" bit.

    Also, I find it helps to get into a position where I can masturbate while giving him head -- it helps you get into it (not get bored so fast) & apparently it feels really good when you moan with him in your mouth (or so I've been told!).

    It has to be something you're doing because you want to do it, tho. If you're just doing it because he's been begging for a bj for weeks, it's just not worth it.
     
  13. ihmurria

    ihmurria fini

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    er, it's Saskatchewan (not saskatewan), but I appreciate the thought. ;)
     
  14. PriceCheck

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    I didn't enjoy it my first time either, but now....well I'd only do it with a monogomous guy because condoms make it less interesting and I don't want a face full of sores....and I haven't been in an exclusive relationship for sooo looong....anyhoo, I miss it dearly. Some advice that may or may not make sense:

    Since you're new at this, you want to spend some time getting to know what your partner likes. Get the both of you naked and play. Ask him what he likes, try something and ask if he likes what you're doing, look for things that you enjoy doing to him.

    My favourite part of giving head is trying to feel what he feels. I like to keep my hands on him (esp one on his belly)so I can feel any slight muscle contractions, listen to/feel his breathing, focus on the smallest details (veins, tendons, etc.) with tounge or fingertips, grab his ass and press myself against him, run my fingers over as much of his body as I can reach. It's great if you have a nice quiet lover who says everything with his body.

    It starts getting really good after you know your partner so well that you know just what to do at which moment to please him perfectly. It's very exciting to be in that place where you're almost feeling the actual pleasure you give. The only way to get there is practice and communication.

    Of course it can't be any fun if the guy is a douche who never does anything for you, 'cause y'know how you'd feel about that. I don't know if any of this helps, but it works for me so....sorry if it's inadequate.
     
  15. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    sometimes it's all I want to do and it turns me on a lot and other times I'm not in the mood for it. I don't and don't think I will ever be able to associtte it with loving and softer sex but if it's mnore of an instinctual thing than there's little that would turn me on more than it.
     
  16. clockworkorangeagain

    clockworkorangeagain femme fatale

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    i agree, generally im not gonna stay down long enough for the end result...
    ...plus then you cant have sex for a while...and gys can be really selfish with foreplay
     
  17. Lilyrayne

    Lilyrayne Chrisppie

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    I don't mind doing it. Ok sometimes I enjoy doing it if I really like my hubby at the moment. (This is why you should suck up to a woman once in a while, guys! pun intended hehe) The only problem I have with it is that it hurts really bad after only a short time, and it does get boring when it drags on too long.
     
  18. paix

    paix Senior Member

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    you guys are so awsome for all your replies, thank you so so much :)

    I don't enjoy it (yet, still new at it) but I will do it, especially since the guy I've been seeing really likes to reciprocate, so that's that, I'd wouldn't not do it because of that.

    Dawn-sky and PriceCheck, thanks for the advice :)

    oh, and to answer dhs's comment, he's right, I posted here and not love & sex cause I figured here I could get answers from women, and it wouldn't take the many possible turns it could take there.

    Thank you guys again, you're all wonderful :)
     
  19. Applespark

    Applespark Ingredients:*Sugar*

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    Ive only given one guy...and I have been with him for 8 years...I enjoy it because I know whats there I dont have to wonder if it's clean or what it's all about...
     
  20. nitemarehippygirl

    nitemarehippygirl Senior Member

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    it's not the giving head part that anybody could like, but more the idea of giving head. ..does that make sense? your jaw gets tired and sore after awhile; it's not exactly the most comfortable thing in the world, but i love doing it for a guy i really like. lynsey, i totally understand where you're coming from, that giving head can't ever be as soft as sex, but i think it can be, even if you don't end up sleeping together afterwards.
     

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