Fiance afraid of vaginas

I'm very sorry if this is in the wrong place, but maybe some of you can help me.
I feel quite neglected, I guess you could call it, and very frustrated with my fiance. I'll just start by saying that I am his first relationship and he was a virgin prior to the start of it.
He is horribly afraid of my vagina, which is so disappointing. At first when I found this out, I was deeply hurt and insulted and wondered what was wrong with me. Sex is not a problem for us and he's actually gone down on me twice, surprisingly (and hated it), but when it comes to touching me at all its like I'm disgusting or something. He just won't do it. I don't know what to do anymore. He says that vaginas just seem so "slimey and gross".
I have always told him there is no reason to be afraid, it is just natural. I know I don't smell bad or anything like that, I keep myself clean.
I assure you, he is not gay and he loves me very much. Whether there could be some repressed memories in the mix I really am not sure of.
Again, sorry if this is off-topic or out of place, I really don't know what to do.

 

Sweet heart, I think your fiance may be gay... I'm not saying that to be mean, I'm saying it because I think it may be true. It might not be but I would imagine if you were gay and were in denial it would be very difficult to overcome due to the social stigma attached to such a situation.

 

I don't think its that he may be gay, he identified as being asexual before.

 

Gay or asexual, they are BOTH sexualities that have to do with not being interested in vagina, they're both equally as 'bad' in a woman's point of view, especially a woman who is in love with a gay/asexual man.

If you love him, either accept it and move on with your relationship with no sex (it can happen if you love him enough lol), maybe try therapy if you're sure he's straight to see if there are any past issues that need resolved or dump him. Those are really your only options.

 

It is possible he is OCD about germs...and that is why he's very turned off about sex acts.

 

Tis Possible It's Grown Teeth

And He Doesn't Want To Break The News To You....

I Suggest You Make An Appointment With Your Gynocologist, And If That

Comes Back Positive, Make A Follow Up Appointment With Your Dentist,

No Girl Wants Cavities In Her Cavity....



Cheers Glen.

 

I am only afraid of vaginas with teeth.

 

Its only going to get worse as your relationship goes on. If he's that turned off by vagina it seems that he's only going to come to resent you more and more. I think that therapy is a must but ultimately you should break up or go on a break until he comes to terms with his sexuality.

 

He went down on you and hated it?
What?
Look, he may be a lovely guy and all but may I suggest keeping him a best friend, but dont marry him. He should love and adore every part of you and want to eat you from dusk till dawn.
Its common for people in long term marriage to go off sex, and I speak from bitter experience - but at this stage? Nah.

 

I'm with the others, he sounds kind of homosexual. I don't think being scared of a pussy is a straight thing!

 

yeah, I wouldn't marry that guy unless you want a sexless marriage for the rest of your life.

Maybe he's gay, maybe he's asexual, maybe he just has some serious deep-rooted issues....either way, he needs to figure that out before stringing along a female in marriage and it could take him a very long time to work something like that out.

 

i don't get it ? you saying he is not licking you ?

 

Don't go giving definite answers like that you may just break someones heart.


OP

I am sure that your fiance is straight. But due to the fact of him being a virgin at such a late age means he didnt have the time to experiment with sex in highschool. Personally I thought pussy was gross until I had sex, I can barely go down on a girl without cringing every now and then. :mickey: but now its fun :mickey: Maybe it just takes longer for others to get over the fear if they have it. Give him time, and try to get him to fuck more.

Btw, I am sure your beautiful AND clean, its him not you. And if he says its you, get rid of him. Nobody should have to listen to another gender perspective on bodily functions.

Goodluck :2thumbsup:

 

Gay.

 

I think gay is the bright side, he might just be a douche, hoping he can get away with never giving you the pleasure you deserve while he gets an unequal amount of blow jobs.

Pussy is fucking delicious.

 

Yeah - could be this too.:smilielol5:

 

he probably watched alien a few too many times.

 

I was going along the lines of being gay

 

you and her boyfriend would make a lovely couple i'm sure :mickey:

 

YOU THINK ???:biker: