she still demands longer penetration!!

Help! My gf is so demanding when it comes to sex.
We are both 32 and have been together 5 years, however she has never had an orgasm through penetration sex.
I always satisfy her orally and she says her orgasms are awesome.
I've never been able to last for ages during intercourse but I dont think Im that bad.
She has now told me that even though the foreplay and oral is great she is getting fed up with this and needs to have quality intercourse.
She says I need to last longer as my performance is useless.
I cum pretty soon in like 3-5 mins, and she is getting furious more and more which is just making the problem worse! Every time we are about to have sex she says things like suppose this wont take long. After she says these things I embarrass myself and have even started cumming sooner. (Even around 30 secs).
We both have high sex drives, and always had sex every day but I always thought that she was happy cos I always made sure she had an orgasm before sex.
All she says now is that she wants sex only and I need to get myself sorted otherwise she just wont bother having sex with me at all! Just how long do I have to last for this demanding gf of mine to be satisfied? She has told me to practice masturbation techniques which I already have but she refuses to help out because she says its me with the problem, not her. Can anyone help out as to why this is such a big deal all of a sudden or am I actually just selfish in bed?

 

I checked both.

You said nothing about yourself trying to last longer other than chokin your chicken. This is what the internet is for, researching sexual matters. Here's some advice, smoke some weed. I always lasted long as hell. There was a woman I was seeing, every time I saw her, I just happened to smoke a blunt 10 minutes prior. We had sex twice, both times I've NEVER came. I f you dont want to smoke, try some desensitizing creams, but do research on it, some don't work.

your GF is mean. dick her down and show her whos the boss.

 

Haha, nice one homie. Never had problems with previous women.
Think its turned more into an anxiety problem to be fair.
Cant handle that green man! Puts me to sleep,lol used to liked a bit of marching powder though, might give that a go again!!! Cheers man

 

I honestly think this is the first one of these 'my gf demands more' threads where I'm actually on her side. You have been together 5 years and in that time you always last 3-5 minutes during sex? Have you attempted to research how to last longer? If not for her sake then for yours as well because, while I won't use the word premature, thats too short for me (personally) to say I even got to savor and enjoy an encounter.

I don't think she's being that demanding if it's been 5 years and you have done nothing about it...

 

Yeah true I suppose. Feel rather like a SAP now you put it that way!
No excuses here but i was a heavy drinker for around 8 years and just fucked myself up! Still, cant blame it all on that. Time to get my ass in gear. Nice reply tho... Bit of a wake up call! Cheers

 

In my honest opinion I don’t think any one person is at fault. That is the worst way to think about any situation. You are both to blame here. She is as much in the wrong as you, for one. Does she honestly think that saying things like ‘this won’t take long’ and ‘you’re the one with the problem, not me’ that it’s not going to make you more anxious? That itself tells me she also has a problem and is being a bit of a bitch about it, for one, the fact that she does have orgasms alone should be a plus for her, I’ve known many friends who haven’t had that privilege. Ever!

You’ve been together five years. Why aren’t you exploring this together? What’s stopping her from seeking and doing a bit of research to help you out? Has she just lost interest altogether? Maybe you should practice doing Kegel exercises as well as finding out some other stuff, they’re as beneficial for men as women.

 

Also I have to ask..how are you screwing her? Like if your just jackhammering away at her with no kinda special rhythm for some of her hot spots, then yea I can see why she's frustrated.

But like posters have said above, sex problems are something that both partners need to take on together as a team, and not get into this whole "it's your fault game" that just destroys any chance for most people to get in the proper mindset for good sex, especially women.

 

hey man 3-5 minutes is pretty well, but they give Tramadol prescriptions for eh.. well "Premature Ejaculation" which is all you'd have to say, it is synthetic morphine so will help stimulate and get you lasting longer.

I normally last 30-150 minutes, and not all that great after 150 minutes things slow down, as she says I'm hurting her, making her sore bruised sometimes, and also I slam into her cervix most of the time, I'm not huge but well proportioned to her body haha. Then if its late then she can get tired and kills it even worse, she's had 1-4 orgasms an hour but then falling asleep at the end is a buzz kill for the woman.

Also are you ehm.. well equipped? Mine is just bigger than average and most girls her get a small orgasm within a few minutes 4-10 minutes they have one, so length or thickness might be slightly affecting? Even without my time, I could get them, and I'm sure less than average could get them there. Unless really thin might be a problem but many girls do enjoy thin ones.

But maybe slow down in your strokes and kiss he passionately give her that sensation while you slowly rub inside of her, to help you last longer, then move your hips to the sides and body down to start touch places that might be new this way. Then if she catches a O you're good, but tell her you want to experiment in new ways, and find things like this. Also try jerking it or receiving full oral, to help the sex later to be lasting a bit longer. Should work ususally my second fuck around is a bit longer. Even if she doesn't reach the Big O make her sweat it out, make it 4 minutes of hard strokes, extremely rough and borderline S&M without the creepy shit, where she will lay down in bed feeling sensational even if there was no O, and she'll have more faith in you. Though I'd dump her right after I please her in the most amazing way, since she's really mean.(well I can't say that really, since I don't know her but that's how it sounds I'm sorry.)