I can't stand my family...

For a long time now, I've been easily irritated by family. I get annoyed when they come home from somewhere, I hate eating meals with them, I prefer to be alone in my room than around them, etc.

This weekend, they went to move my sister out of college, so I had the house to myself for a couple days. It was so fucking nice. I did all sorts of things and just really enjoyed myself. Then they come home, and I'm put it such a bad mood. And it was Mother's Day, so now my mom's all pissed at me because I didn't say hi or anything when they came in the door.

I feel guilty for this, but I really just can't stand them. Is there something wrong with me or something? I mean, in general, I prefer being alone.
I've always been independent, and I want to say it's just 'cause I've been long ready to move out (I'm going to college this aug.) and I'm just getting sick of not living away from family.
I'm sick of having to follow their rules or answering questions about where I was or what I was doing. They're just annoying, but I feel bad about thinking that.

 

The way you feel is natural. I didn't start feeling that way until after I graduated high school, but once I graduated I was ready to get OUT OF THERE! Just bide your time until August. You'll be surprised how nice it is to visit them and how much it changes your relationship once you move out and become independent.

 

i hate my fam. too. but payin yor own bills is gonna suck lol

 

I'm 28 and I still have my family! I haven't spoken to them in 2 years and my life has been soooooo much better ever since.

 

Thanks for the comments.
Meliai- I thought that, too, but my sis (frosh in college) isn't at all like that. Nor are any of my friends. I just wanna leave right now and live somewhere far away.
stoner- yeah, I'll try to find some rich roomies or somethin', lol.
MayQueen- are they nive though? My mom started cryin yesterday because I didn't talk to her at all. I felt reaally bad, but it just made me not want to be around her anymore.

 

Yes my mother is. She thinks she hasn't done anything even after I've told her several times why I don't talk to her anymore...she still thinks she this sweet innocent thing. Whatever!

 

What you said about your mom crying kinda made me sad.....I have a different perspective on this now that I'm about to be a mom than I did even a few months ago, and maybe I'm not the best person to give advice because my family is really close knit and I'm grateful for them no matter how much they irritate me..

but my advice is to be nice to your family if they're nice to you. Your mom carried you inside of her for 9 months, she loves you more than anyone else on earth. Children (even grown children) are naturally selfish when it comes to their parent's love, but try not to be.

 

you're seventeen.

you hate everything.

 

Yeah... it may be because of your age if you are really 17...a little bit later you'll start understanding how important your family is for you and that they are the only people whom you may really trust and who will love you no matter what...At least that is how it usually happens..

 

The Imaginary Being- lol

The thing is... I'm always fully aware of how I act hurts other people, even if that's not at all what I want. I know I'm very dependent on my family and stuff, but I just can't help it. I suck at hiding my emotions.
But I've been in a much better mood with them lately.
I would still love a place of my own though.... :I

 

Yes I feel same way. It is not like they are so bad or something, but I just can't stand being with them anymore. Every second alone is precious.

 

Totally normal. I moved out when I finished uni, I've now been living with my boyfriend for 2 years and my relationship with my family has actually improved. Having my own space has improved my mental well-being so, so much. There are still problems in my family but having that space to go back to your own place is really great. If you are ready to move out then great, but bear in mind that with your own space comes your own responsibility!

 

Yeah, try to be nice with her if she is. I can relate, though. My mom is awesome, such a sweet person, very caring. She can also be overwhelming. I can't be with her for more than 4 days or I get annoyed at a lot of things.

That's why I was so glad and relieved to leave for uni at 18. It was a lot better after that.

Be more tolerant and put yourself in her shoes, even if it's difficult.

 

That is the only reason I am with mine. I pay the bills, but stay because moving is just too stressful.

 

In a natural environment, we'd leave the hut to start a family of our own at right about the beginning stages of puberty.

 

And I Can't Even Begin To Imagine How Many 12 Year Old Girls Would

Die Whilst Trying To Give Birth The Natural Way....



Cheers Glen.

 

Not many 12 year olds would've started having menstrual cycles yet on a mostly plant-based, natural, hormone-free diet so they wouldn't be able to conceive anyhow.

My point, tho, was just that it's normal at age 18 to be sick to death of living with your parents.

 

Thanks everyone, I feel not so evil now
What really pissed me off was that she came in my room when I was at school and I guess read some personal stuff. Now, I'm usually pretty happy, but I do get depressed sometimes, and I feel writing helps. Plus, as far as writing in general goes, I have a dark side. So I guess she read stuff I wrote.. and... bleeh >.<
I hate people coming in my room- especially nosing around!

Anyway, it's all good now. We're on good terms, but I salvage every moment when I'm home alone. It's so nice.

 

Your are lucky to have your family with you. You will realize their worth if you were one of the orphans or grown up with a wicked with a step mom that doesn't love you a bit. Try to be open with your family and discuss your differences to fix things out.

 

I think what your going through is normal. I cannot stand my family, neither could my two sisters, my mother or my father. Even most of my few friends did not seem to like or be liked by theirs, though they did not admit it. Personally I think the only reason there is such a thing as a family is that few people have enaugh money to survive on their own. Even though they do, moving is a bother, and cheap flats are really shit.