Fucking Relationships!!!

Sometimes I wish I could not be in a relationship for just one month! I would like to be alone to do as I please. Fucking sick and tired of everything, even myself!

 

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Yeah only that would end up backfiring and then I will be alone forever...it's a catch 22!

 

being single for one month won't result in u being single forever... ?

 

sounds like it's time for a break

 

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I miss being in a relationship at times, most times actually.... I don't miss who I have been in relationships with.

Sorry your head is getting screwed around...

 

maybe its the person your with ??

 

Yeah I'm coming to that realization...worst part is we are both stuck in this relationship. We've been together for 8 years and everything we have we got together..house cars, everything. Neither one of us has family that would help us out through this. She has her parents, but they are old and tired and have helped us out enough in the past.

 

Wat exactly has u anmoyed?

 

That's your problem. If you are not comfortable with yourself you won't be with anyone else.

At least not in the long run.

 

Everyone gets sick of themselves. It's not that uncommon, unless you're in denial which means you think you're perfect, which means you're really an ass in a relationship.

You say you have 8 years of history and building a life. You're 28 so why is it that you need assistance from your elders to get through this. Give her enough belongings to be comfortable, take only the minimum of what you need, and start and independent life. You sound ready.

 

Its hard to start fresh and figure out selling (do you own?) the house, sorting out the car situation, etc....

but is it really as hard as being stuck in a relationship you don't want to be in for the rest of your life?

You can't really worry about whether you'll be alone afterwards or not. Nothing is guaranteed there. You really just have to worry about your happiness and you may be happier being alone.

 

I feel the same way sometimes.
I haven't been completely single or not seeing anyone since 2010.
Before that i had no one, now there's always someone.

 

OP I absolutely get where you are coming from. Being in a relationship that long and trying to walk away, sort yourself out and then enter into a new relationship eventually with no way of knowing how that one will turn out, is an overwhelming prospect. How do you reconcile the years invested in the original relationship?

It's a bit awkward starting anew when you're so used to someone else.

I get what others are saying but I have seen people talk the talk about moving on and not staying in an unhappy relationship but when faced with this situation themselves, fail to walk it like they talk it.

I feel for ya and I hope you find peace.

 

If you dont want to end the relationship, why dont you judt take a break for awhile? It will do a ton of good and yoi'll probably end up missing your wife at the end of it. Just take some time off!

 

Being alone forever is not the end of the world.

If the problems are fundamental then separation would be a good thing (maybe scary but good). If the problems are in the moment, work through it. Since you only want a month it sounds like the latter.

Sorry you are going through a rough patch.

 

Hey I know what you mean. I've not been alone for longer than a month since I was 16. I wasted two years on one loser, another on the next, and now I've been with my current boyfriend for two years as you know already. But as wonderful as he is, I do miss my independence sometimes. We live together and my family abandoned me so the feeling of being stuck makes sense. But you just need to decide whether you're staying because you feel the need to, or if you stay because you're happy with it..at least for the most part.

I for one think it's ridiculous to expect to be happy 100% of the time. That's impossible. You don't have to be happy all day, every day. But if you don't go one day without feeling happy at all I say you're fine.

Which feeling do you have the majority of the time?

 

i like being alone. very much actually. its really nice being comfortable with yourself. and you wont be alone forever. the only way that happens is if you stay inside forever and dont ever do anything.

 

Sorry it took so long to get back to you, had a lot going on this weekend.

I think for the most part what annoys me is that her parents treat me like fucking shit and she lets them. And we but heads ALL the time. We are both very domineering (her more so than me though and it drives me crazy!)

I'm usually happy most of the time here lately, but Lisette has been acting very strange lately. ^long story though I will tell you later.