too high sex drive?

You are right what works for some might not for others! That is your business.

I was trying to say from my experiance of being married to someone with no sex drive for 16 years that nothing you can do is going to change it. So if you can live with that and probably never be sexually satisfied and from the sounds of it very little passion then do it. I know I was never happy untill I started over with someone who was into being intimate like I am. It took a big part of my life to figure it out, but thank god I did.

Good luck to you.

 

Right...

 

Just sounds like he iwnt really fussed. You mentioned every previous girlfriend has cheated on him and you as well, so by now probably just expects that as the way it is. And didnt have a big sex drive to begin with.

It is just rubbing squishy bits together in the end. The only way you are really going to get yours is something on the side.

And if he just assumes you are anyway, maybe even prefers that thought so he doesnt feel as guilty and you wont bug him as much and also gets to be with a girl not psycho jealous all the time

Then its you stresssing all time about giving in to a situation he's assumed was the way it is all along


For whatever the reason, if they are not blinded by the va jay jay, they are not going to believe you are able to keep your legs closed

 

He knows I'm not messing around on him. He wouldn't have stayed with me, otherwise.

 

You aren't getting enough sex from your BF. He knows it but doesn't care enough to try and make you happy. You also have to deal with the loss of trust/ Betrayal from cheating.

Pretty obvious: END THIS RELATIONSHIP!!!!!! Truth is, a person that truly loves their partner would try to keep them satisfied sexually. If a man has a lower sex drive than his woman he can satisfy her by fucking without coming or cunninglingus or even sex toys.

 

Can someone close this thread now?

I feel like it's no longer relevant to the issue I stated and that you all have completely misinterpreted my relationship. Like a previous poster stated: we are both over the cheating. Yes, I made a mistake and it was stupid..but we've moved on from that.

But I'm not going to spend my time justifying my relationship. I appreciate all your input. Even the ones that might have rubbed me the wrong way because I've been doing a lot of thinking. Twice a week is plenty enough, I just need to stop being immature about it and have some discipline for myself. It's better when we have sex less often. (the normal once or twice a week). Than when we first got together and were having sex every night.

You guys are blowing a lot of this out of proportion and thinking that our relationship is something that it isn't. Not that it's all your fault...you've just interpreted the information I provided as this unhealthy/unhappy relationship that should end. I don't need sex every night to make me happy. Him in my life is all that matters.

 

Sweetheart get him some dhea from gnc... Enjoy!!!

 

not to necropost, but OP, ask your man to see a dr about depression. if he suffers from it, it'll kill libido faster than almost anything else on the planet. (constantly feeling like you want to crawl in a hole and die has a marked effect of making one feel unsexy. trust me on the personal experience here)

with the history of regularly (as clockwork) being cheated on, his standing low libido, and some of what else you've said about his other behavior, it's very possible that this is either emotional (depression), medical (low neurotransmitters causing chronic depression, or maybe even low testosterone levels, which can wreck libido like a giant ice cube does a supposedly unsinkable ship)

either way, bears a bit more checking into. perhaps he's just naturally got a low libido, but if it's a sign of something else, it would be worth it to know, right?