Dating a Virgin, I find very little fetish pleasure in the matter, it's escalating

If it was purely physical matter there would be no problem but with physical virginity comes emotional virginity which is a real barrier and hazard. We were grinding the other day and afterwards I told her "I want you to feel loved respected and cherished, like a princess, I don't want you to feel like it's too physical" (all quotes are not 100% accurate)

she said "I like this but I just like spending time cuddling and hanging out too" obviously I reply "I love that too" [snuggle snuggle joking joking time occurs]

It makes me much more confident when she draws boundaries and tells me what she wants, that's normal in adult relationships finding a balance between the sexual appetites of the individuals? She's younger and I'm her first everything more or less, so I am pussyfooting around any sexual activity. (pun intended)

I feel the pressure is on, the pressure to not be douche. I love her, more than anyone else before otherwise I would have fled this situation, if I couldn't love her, couldn't court her proper, pamper her and flower her and flirt with her and listen with her I would have vanished. and honest she's the prettiest girl I've ever seen and the kindest girl I ever met. fancy that.

it was the first time we were grinding, she was breathing so fast. Her grandma was in the kitchen so we rose and quieted as quick as we could. The pressure is thick around me, like Southern humidity. I love her and she loves me but of course everything isn't perfect, everything is moving so fast, and honestly I haven't gone this long without sex since I lost my virginity. There are so many emotional hymens being ripped and I just go through the weeks hoping that they're no damage.

 

Not to forget you will have all this explaining that you will have to do when you are thinking of havng sex. It's a condom. Wow, really? How do you spell it?

 

Keep getting to know her before having sex. I think that is a great thing if you are able to achieve such.

 

go at her pace!

 

In other words don't shag her at all.