Could really use some advice, here.

It's driving me crazy and I'm tired of being the only one that cares about mine and my sisters relationship. Details in my latest blog. Please read and comment and give me some outside perspective. All I know is something needs to be done.

 

I read today's post in your journal... A little confused as to who is the elder sister, I'm thinking you... Not that it matters much for what I'm going to say.

I think for your own peace of mind you're going to have to pull back and let her go her own way, even though that's not what you want. BUT! Don't burn any bridges and make it clear that you will always be there when she needs you to be. This kinda tosses the ball into her court, see what she does with it. Sounds like this is what the rest of the family has done as well. They may have come to the same conclusion. Of course there will always be the birthday/Christmas/whatever/ contact. I'm not suggesting you "never speak to her again" just let her fly a little.... and get yourself some peace.

No relationship is ever going to work if one person is the only one trying.

 

yeah dude me and my sister has never really talked, its always been really awkward so yeah...All in good time friend

 

(I'm the older)
My sis and I didn't see each other from the time she was 4 til she was 12. I was 8 to 16. We missed a major portion of our childhood together. We've gotten pretty close and I was the only one she wanted in the room when she had her baby in April (17 yo and a new mom). But like I said...we can't really talk about anything. It's a mixture of her age and both parents. Our mom and her dad are the most stubborn people in the world. And her father is an unreasonable piece of shit. I know it's genetics and that's what worries me. Because this is an attitude that I'm just not going to deal with all the time. I don't want to say anything I will regret and I want to be a part of she and her son's life. She just makes it so fucking difficult.

 

ohh i see...Well iam dreadfully sorry to hear that...I hope everything works out