Pictures with whores ok?

My seven year old son and I moved in with my boyfriend this month. The relationship has always been rocky because he is an alcoholic and used drugs. He had always lied to me about it. One day he showed up with coke on his nose and was still completely denying it.

Finally he quit doing drugs, went to see a therapist and slowed down the drinking significantly. Things were really, really good again and I actually thought things were going to work out.

I'm a photographer, I look at everyone's camera. I found his camera next to the record player I bought him for Christmas, naturally I picked it up and went through the pictures. There was a photograph of him with his arm around anther woman, (whom I believe to be a hooker). He had told me multiple times that he was too drunk to talk to anyone in Vegas.

I was very upset that he even went to Vegas because he went on Valentines day weekend. With everything that had happened, I thought that was very inconsiderate. He went with his brother who had posted on his facebook "looking for valentines in Vegas".

I asked him about it, and of course he accused me of "snooping", which is total BS. And then he called me the whore. I'm assuming because he's paying for everything right now. I just started a new job. He was way too defensive.

This was five days ago. I can't get it out of my head. We were having sex, (really good sex) the other night and the picture popped into my head and I couldn't finish. I can't look at him the same. It's pretty much a deal breaker for me, especially how he handled the situation.

I asked some of the men in my life that I'm close too. My brother said he doesn't know, I could be looking too deep into it. The other said who cares if he gets a hooker it's not a big deal. But that's why I would never date that guy.

Please let me know what you think.

 

Move on, find someone who cares about you. He won't change. Good Luck to you and your son.

 

I wouldn't be forgiving of his past behavior, up to and including the whore; but this brand new, cleaned up, doing much better, person just called you a whore. That's new behavior that I wouldn't tolerate.

 

move on

 

Maybe it would be good to perhaps try to take a step back and view things differently? What do you want to happen for the future?

 

If he is paying for everything, then what is the difference?

You need to be financially independant from him otherwise you'll fall into a trap of putting up with a whole lot of crap because thats where the money is coming from.

Just because a lot of people may tell you what you want to hear, move on, you can do better....doesnt mean they arent still just going to think you are a kept woman especially if the see evidence of him paying for everything. Say nice things to your face, but then raise eyebrows when your back is turned

You talk about trusting him. What does he, and everyone else think. If he stopped paying for everything, how long would it take you to disappear?

Whether its 200 bucks for the hour, or 2000 for the month, what is the difference?

 

I found out once my girlfriend cheated on me, I called her a 'slut'...

The day after I realized that no matter what she did to me you don't call a girl a whore, bitch, slut etc...

Go find someone better.

 

i'm sorry, i couldn't get past "naturally i invaded his privacy."

 

Are you kidding me?????? Unless YOU'RE into torture, find someone else!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Put him out with the trash.

 

This has "dysfunctional" written all over it. A seven year-old has no business in this living situation, let alone you.

 

Dont Tell him, dont tell ur son.

Just pick up and leave next time hes gone for more than 24 hours. Get a restraining order and let him know hes done nothing but made ur life harder.

Definitely sounds like it to me.

 

Extremely good choices you are making there. :2thumbsup:

 

Geezus, listen to some of the replies. A restraining order for what? "the really good sex", Unless you are into the torture of having a guy pay for everything ????

And you serious wonder why you all have so much trouble getting a boyfriend

Bitches be crazy

 

4 months is not long enough to "quit doing drugs" to the point where its smart to have a 7 year old kid around him.

 

1. You're an adult.
2. You have a child.
3. Your boyfriend does drugs and hires hookers.
And you are asking us what to do?

Who do you love more? Him or your kid?

No kid should be around that kind of bullshit.

 

this is the type of crap that young guys get indoctrinated with in school these days

she can shit on you all she wants, but "oh my goodness, don't use the b-word! that might hurt her self-esteem!"

I don't think you should use degrading words against an innocent person, but if she cheated on you, I don't think you need to hold back

 

just move on. you waste your time

 

It takes two people to fight. and no one's a winner the kid is in the middle with no choice..