My bf is distant, both metaphorically and literally. Whenever I try to suggest spending more time together, or making the two hour trip to see him he's hesitant when he doesn't flat out refuse. He's said in the past that if I see him one weekday night then he won't see me a weekend night as if it's some sort of time share. I've spent a half dozen nights at his the last couple of months, and the twice he's made the effort to come and see me there's been other things on in my city he wanted to do. The only time he can come to mine is Friday and Saturday nights, but the last couple months he's gone out drinking with his friends Thursday and been too hungover/tired to come to mine. Even when I've tried suggesting I at least come along to one of their Thursday clubs I get rejected. How do I get him to chase me for once? Is it worth being with someone if you have to do all the work?
You are the only one who can decide whether your bf is worth the effort you're putting into him. Let's put it this way--if you broke up with him, would he notice?
I would say do your own thing, let him miss you a bit. if he doesn't change, then it's probably a good idea to end it. don't stay with someone who takes you for granted. everyone deserves better.
Nope. Certainly not in my books. So, why are you doing this? Is there any good reason for you to take all the footwork & rejection? What are you getting in return? KD
