Indeed I do. Anxiety, yours about the state of teenage girls, is caused by the misapprehension of what is so.
You're good, but would you rather be right, or happy? As I recall there was a period in my daughters teenage lives when they were stoned cold hysterical bitches. They got over it and it was really no skin off my nose. Everyone has the capacity to be brilliant if you will allow it.
thedope, how old are you? Because both Peace4All and I are roughly around the same age, and I'd have to strongly agree with him. I'm not saying there's no capacity for people to change. There truly is. But for the most part, it is like being a needle in a haystack these days. It's not like I have control over the people I meet, bro.
Put both your ages together and I am older yet still and I am unopposed in life. You, having yet to grasp much, are in need of allies. That is why young males tend to run in packs.
I am the same age. I understand the idea that OP is trying to get at, but the way in which he said it is incorrect. I do know of the type of person that this thread is aimed at. Yes, the stated behavior is pervasive, but to imply that a majority of any people act a certain way is to stereotype those people. This type of statement is entirely useless and does nothing but cause harm by insulting people and by perpetuating the thought patterns which lead to stereotyping. There is no place in intelligent discussion for stereotyping of any kind.
Age is just a number, and I'm sorry if you took it the wrong way. But the reason I brought it up is that I've been through the public school system as it is right now, and I've met plenty of girls my age who are very much part of today's society. Frankly, I haven't done much traveling and it's not under my control, unfortunately. But what I will say is that, in terms of a relationship, the type of girl I'm looking for is pretty much non-existent in these parts. And you bet I'm in need of allies. I've spent so much time unwillingly by myself, I hate it. But whether it's guy or girl, I'm cool with anyone who's cool with me. I try to be a very open person, it's just most people around here aren't open with me and/or are too busy with their own self-fulfillment. You're essentially right, but I connect with OP's frustrations. It's sort of a struggle between telling the truth and stereotyping. It's hard when you're the one living with the consequences of today's society.
I dont even think its stereotyping if theres many, many examples. Perhaps saying 'all', but then we're just getting hung up on words. Its a trend.
Be intelligent, kind, and caring, and in time you will attract the same kind of person. Again, it may be an accurate statement that many teenage girls are stupid, but when you try to put that classification on to a single person for whom you have no particular reason to believe it aside from their age and gender, you stereotype that person. Everyone deserves to be judged only on their merits as a human being. It is, for the reason stated above. There's nothing wrong with observing a trend, and in many cases it is useful, but even to say that a majority of a group acts a certain way is to accuse at least one person of being something or some way that they are not.
Well of course if you don't know the person, you can't judge them. So many people have done that to me. People who thought I was a nerd, or naive, or clueless, etc. Fed up with that type of crap.
Well yes, with good reason. I'm not saying that all generalizations are inherently wrong. I am saying that generalizations in regards to groups of people are wrong, because every single person is unique. I do believe that stereotyping is wrong, in all cases. I suppose that to say all people who stereotype are stupid is to stereotype those people, because saying or doing something stupid does not make a person stupid, but that was meant more as an insult/turn of phrase. I retract the implication that all people who stereotype are stupid, but I do believe that the act itself is stupid and wrong.
Same here. I highly value friendship, and the friends I do have mean the world to me. In fact, I recently had a friend go from being a close brother to ditching me in my time of need. Saying we'll most likely never hang or talk again in life. So if anything it's the people here who run in packs. Not me. At least the same night I was able to grow closer with another friend. I need allies, but not people who say one thing, then just leave you with silence because they're too busy with their own fulfillment. People need to look outside themselves for once, and not take friendships for granted....
if you hate them as teenagers you'll utterly loathe them as adults. as people grow older they become completely self obsessed. worse yet it's at an age what they do it actually makes a difference.