I've accepted myself, but...

My whole life, I've always sort of known I like girls, but I'm only recently accepting that. I've never had a problem with homosexuality, but for some reason I've been in denial.

I've been afraid that people will judge me, since I was a kid, I've been bullied and picked on for various reasons (I have tourette's, for example) and I didn't need another thing for people to bug me about.

The thing is, now that I've accepted it... I don't know what to do. I've been to afraid to date anyone and I'm not comfortable with my family enough to tell them how I feel and I have no LGBT connections to try and at least talk to someone who knows how I feel.

There are only a few people who know I'm bi/lesbian and the closest to me is my half-brother who has been really supportive, but I don't feel I can tell the others yet. I feel like they'll think I"m trying to get attention or making it up, but I can't help how I feel.

Anyway, I just needed to get that off my chest. I really don't know where to start.

 

Hey there, and welcome to the forums! Saw nobody replied to this one, and I have to say good for you for taking those first steps! Take your time to come out, nobody's rushing you. I can relate to the tourette's situation (kids used to think I was annoying), and I had lots of confusion and denial as well. Hope things are going well for you, and best of luck with finding some others you can relate to! This is a great community and I'm sure you'll find it very Homey here.

 

I agree, take your time. Let life happen and dont force it. Coming out and telling others isnt the biggest priority right now, there is nothing going on that would make them suspect(like dating someone that they would probably meet) so take the time to figure yourself out. Go out and meet people and become comfortable with your choice on your own before adding anyone else and their opinions into the equation. What you are doing in your life is about you, your future, your happiness, your well-being, so make time to think about the future and what you want out of your life and dont let anyone change who you are or affect the way you feel about yourself. Good luck to you.

 

I'm starting college in September, so I'm hoping that it will open opportunities to explore and meet people. Especially since my school is down town, so there are more things to do.

Coming out, I've decided when I'm ready and comfortable to because you're right, there is no rush. I'm thinking if I have a girlfriend, I 'll tell them then because part of the reason I'm worried is because I've poked at it once with my sister and she didn't believe me, so I want them to know who I am... not that I'm trying to be someone else, you know? Not that it changes who I am, but it's something I've hidden for so long, it'll be nice once I can let it go.

 

Its really no ones business you just live your life for you and make yourself happy

 

I totally agree. I am a gay man and probably not much older than you. I am just accepting the fact that I am gay. Most of my family doesn't know, (at least I never told them), but my Mother and Father and siblings do. Just take your time. And as long as you know that you are a lesbian, it really doesn't matter if they believe you or not. My family didn't for years. Good luck. :sunny: