I've been with my boyfriend since November. I know he loves me and want to settle down with me later on. I love him too. Alot, but I don't know...I feel like shit because there this guy that I keep thinking about. We've been flirting and stuff. I think the idea of being with Chirs forever already is kinda freaking me out. I want that, I really do. But I feel bad for wanting this other guy. I know if I did something with him, I'd get over the whole freakout dealio, but I don't want to hurt Chris. I don't know...am I a bad person? Have any of you been in similar situations?
no, of course your not bad whitter.just the fact that you care so much bout not hurting someone shows what a good person you are.but like you said even though you really care about chris,its freakin' you out thinking about settling down with him forever.thats not bad.thats perfectly normal.your 18th yrs old.you have your whole life ahead of you.plenty time for settling down later with someone if thats what you want.for now just be 18th. just live your life and along the way, dont forget ta smell the roses.be true to yourself whitter.goodluck kid.:mickey::2thumbsup:
I've been on the losing end of this kind of situation. My ex girlfriend, the love of my life, left me because she had sudden feelings for another guy. She was with him for a few months before she got pregnant and is now stuck with him. She regrets leaving me, and tells me that she still loves me and wants to be with me, but she can't because she has to focus on becoming a mother now. Don't give up on Chris if you truly love him. My two cents.
by what you say above i understand that you love him, but you are not in love with him, (same issue here LOL), you are too young to commit...so have your share of fun!
You are only 18. At 18 you don't even know who you are, let alone who you should spend the rest of your life with (trust me, been there done that). Enjoy being young. Have fun meeting different guys. It takes meeting different types of people to find one that you know will be the "one." I wish someone had told me that at 18!
It's not even about this other guy anymore, we're not messing around. I did alot of thinking and we broke up. Now I'm dealing with the mess of moving out. I have lots of questions and posted something in the Relationships thingy. I don't feel like re-posting it. But any advice or answers would be greatly appreciated! Thank you all for your advice so far.
You've been with boyfriend for only 8 months. You've fooled your self that you know your boyfriend well enough to commit to him for the rest of your life. Are you horrible for wanting this other guy? No. A life long committed relationship involves several times when you have the serious hots for some guy other than your partner. Would you be horrible if you "did something to get it out of your system"? No. But you would prove that you aren't ready to be committed to any one person. Committment isn't a feeling, its a series of actions that demonstrate feeling.
