My boyfriend who I've been with for 1yr & 4 mnths .. He asked me a long time ago , randomly , if I had sex with a female .. or ever did anything with a female. And I have . But I lied and said no. And then he said " ooh good , 'cause I wouldn't have know if I could stand to be with you any longer If you would have said yes" I was like .. haha. Yea. and then he went on saying how he thinks stuff like that is nasty.. and I've only had sex with 1 girl & kissed 2 other ones & stuff. Am i bad for lying to him ? Should I eventually tell him , I don't want him to view me as nasty like he went on about ? Should I just kill my self .. ? >.<
I bet he asked cause he has seen or heard of you being a little to friendly with some other girls. My girlfriend used to think it was ok to wrestle and make out with her friend and I was really pissed. I was like uhhh you're a lesbian... But I made her understand I'm not ok with that and that if she wants me she has to only get frisky with me. So I would just contain myself if I were you and I would only tell him if there is a good chance he might find out anyway cause if you lie and then tell truth it's not really as bad as when you lie and then they find out you lied from someone else Also As long as its not my girl Girl on girl is hot high5
I can't really tell by your name if you're in fact a girl so maybe the last part is irrelevant If you're a dude you should just tell your bf like... How am I supposed to know I'm gay if I've never tried girls
I mean I havent kissed or anything with a girl in like 3 or 4 years. When I did that along time ago , I was just curious & wanted to experiment. But HMMM . Maybe he did ask , because I was a little "too friendly" , 'cause I play around with my friends ( of both sexes ) and flirt with them.. Like to a point where if I was in public , someone would be like .. "uhh , yea . she's a lesbo" >.-
Yeah that would make me upset that's probably what is bothering your bf if it's how you are you might have to try to make him understand but if he's anything like me it would be best to just not get frisky with your friends, that's more of a single person thing to do right?
don't kill yourself, that's a crazy idea and no one is worth that. you could tell him but only if it crops up again, you say he asked a long time ago and that it was a random question, so maybe it's history now, unless it's bothering you that much that you want to talk to him about it.
..I mean it has been bothering me , because I hate that I lied to him , we tell eachother everything . But I guess Ill just tell him .. When he asks again. :2thumbsup:
No like I said if that's how you are you gotta make him understand. If he doesn't like it you don't have to change but that doesn't mean he has to change right?
I would say don't bring it up but if he asks again i think you should tell him the truth... When you tell him the truth just tell him that you weren't sure how he would react to it.. Just tell him what you told us that you were young and you were experimenting... I honestly think that everyone experiments to some degree at some point in their life. That could be why he is grossed out and doesn't want to accept those kinds of acts.. I think that you two should always be open. If you can't communicate and trust and work things out there isn't much there. Communication and trust is like the foundation to a healthy relationship. Never kill yourself taking your life over someone is not good. Sometimes people joke about it or really want to do it but don't. Even if you guys were to break up. Stuff happens there are millions of people in the world. Everyday of life is a blessing Don't change yourself for anyone either. You are you and you should always be you. Now if there are problems like serious drugs/ or major attitude/ bi polar problems its always good to work on and change those sorts of things. But never change the way you are. The person that you are is unique. We all have our own individual personalities for a reason. And always remember to be truthful. Lies/hiding things always resurface..... and when that person finds out it hurts them and makes them question you and things you have said to them before.. How much more did this person lie to me about? Good luck!
I dunno . . I just know I shouldnt stop being who I am , I play around alot with people of both sexes and if he can't handle who I am then ooh well. Or maybe this is just a faze I'm going through..
@WESumthingTOES.. lol I understand what you're saying completely and like I said before we tell each other everything , that's why it's a thought that's been there in my brain for a while .. 'Cause we're always straight-forward with each other , like this is the only thing I've lied to him about. But I definitely will tell him the truth if he asks again. Hopefully he'll take it lightly and won't view me as a disgusting person..
I think if he really feels that way then you might break because of it. But it seems like telling him that lie really bothers you a lot. Shows you are a honest person. But if you break because of that then ditch him there are tons of men that would love a women that has/had sexual acts with another women.
You know what .. You're completely right. If he can't handle the truth then I should just ditch him.. and yea , I hate lying to people. I try to be honest as possible and usually am.
