Getting a girlfriend...

Yes, I have nothing wrong with an awkward person because they're usually the most intelligent and the most interesting once you get to know them. The thing is, nobody wants to get to know somebody it seems. Or maybe that's just me trying to rationalize.

 

Fear of rejection?

Hotwater

 

Hotwater:

Sure, kind of.

 

you're not a guy though lol.

 

i just hate it when girls tell guys to 'have confidence'

talk to the girl

when in reality if we men were to do it

and didn't look like johnny depp

we get fucking pepper sprayed and called a rapist.

it's the worst advice.

 

first guy... the second is ted bundy.

 

Can anybody answer me. How do i become a member so that i can post a thread

 

Along with everyone else, I would also advise going outside. You can't meet people, unless you're among people. I know that's overly simplistic, but it's also true. I have rarely had the opportunity to just randomly meet a strange girl. In my humble experience, (most women), if you walk up to some girl you don't know and try to start up a conversation with her, she'll be immediately on guard and assume that you're some kind of creep or a sleaze. Why? Because odds are, most of the strange men that have walked up to her in the past and tried to start a conversation with her based on her appearance, have, in fact, been creepy sleazes.

Now maybe if you're GQ material, they'll be able to overlook the creepiness of it (and it really is a shame that striking up a conversation with a stranger has become a "creepy" uncomfortable thing in the first place, but the fact is, it is - to a lot of people). If you're not, you're going to need "references" (i.e. a circle of living, breathing friends who you interact with in person on a semi-frequent basis). 90 percent of the women I have dated throughout my entire life, I met through people I already knew. The thinking is: well if he's friends with my friends, or a friend of my friends, then he's probably "alright". In this "safe" setting, you can get to know new people much easier.

So, in summary - go make some friends. It takes time, it takes favors, it takes common interests, it takes a very open mind and helluva a lot of patience and tolerance. The trick is, make friends with people who are good for you, who might even challenge you or make you uncomfortable at times, but who always have your best interest and welfare in mind. Avoid people who don't give a shit about getting you into trouble, or who don't give a damn about your safety (or their own for that matter). They're out there (the good and the bad). Be flexible, be open-minded, but never, ever, allow your desire for acceptance to trump your own values. That's bad for everyone.

 

Keep contributing to other people's threads and before long you'll become a member. There's no shortcut to this, thankfully.

 

like someone said, you need to have friends so that you can meet their female friends. don't want friends, too bad; girls are afraid of strangers that don't know someone they know. then, when you meet your friends' female friends, act like a douche around them so they will have sex with you. eventually, you'll have sex with someone who will want to be your girlfriend, and voila!

since when do you need to be a member to post a thread?

 

Maybe it’s how you're framing it in your mind. Instead of thinking of it as 'something you do' or 'someone you get', think 'how can I be a friend.' If you are a friend, you'll recognize one when you see one.

 

and remember - if you're good at being what girls want and if they like you there will ALWAYS be some asshole (always a bloke) who tells you you're a creepy bastard.

 

2 Days, And 36 Post's Later, Still No Response From The OP....

Hopefully Some Sweet Young "Chicky-Babe" Has Him In Her Clutches, And

Is Currently "Bonking His Brains Out"....



Cheers Glen.

 

Are you kidding he’d probably faint If a girl even smiled at him

hotwater

 

Actually, yesterday a hot girl on a metro smiled at me. I smiled back and felt like a bad ass.

 

Quite an uplifting experience isn’t it

It’s gets better when you actually get the girl, a lot better :2thumbsup:



Hotwater

 

in the dream you had after fainting?

 

Nah, I was totally awake this time!

 

daydreaming?

Just checking.

 

lol i've given up long ago. The mating dance for our species is outdated, ridiculous and for stupid horny people. :daisy: