So I'm not really anti-porn, but I have watched porn already 10 years really a lot, since I was 13 years old. Like 6-9h in my teenage years. I really saw it all and wanted to see all. I didn't really have any healthy social life, so I was using all my time watching porn. The last years I started to have real relationships with woman. And I noticed that I was unable to keep my hard on during the sex. Even that I was attracted to the woman the sex just wasnt stimulating enough. Also it was impossible to come while having sex. I constantly was thinking about porn scenes while having sex. So lately I started to like more and more humiliating porn, it was really stimulating when man is dominating the woman. Or groups of men just humiliate one girl. You know, just liked it when woman is dominated. Well I noticed that it was really the only thing that is sexually stimulating enough in real sex. I had sex with many woman, that I of course felt attracted to them but I didn't really have much feelings toward them, so I didn't care if they enjoyed the sex or not. So lately I found first woman that I really like in the deeper sense, like I really feel emotions toward her. So I want her to have good time and feel good. So this was the first time when I started to think about my sexual preferences, as I want her to enjoy sex, so I don't want to do anything that she really don't like. As I noticed I still was craving some domination and other stuff like that. I was still watching porn, and as always stuff like Rocco and Max Hardcore. So I stopped watching porn and noticed that my sexual preferences has slowly going to heahtly ones. I can't even think anything humiliation toward the girl I feel emotions to right now, it makes me feel bad if I do that. Its really good as in the past, I fantazised during the sex or when I was masturbating about how I'm humiliating the girl I was with. I'äve noticed that most hc porn has aspect of degrading the woman, so subconsciously it will effect the man who watch porn a lot. Just my thoughts.
well experiencing/watching anything really regularly will desensitize you eventually. and if normal stimulation isn't cutting it anymore there are several options, vibrating toys/tingling lube(i'm told to STAY AWAY from icy/hot stuff though), anal(prostate) stimulation, nipple play, or going a while(3-7 days usually works) without ANY stimulation should all help though most "normal" people would describe the kind of porn i indulge in as "hardcore" for sure. i hate to play up the steriotype but i'm a furry
