My boyfriend and I just broke up. We lived in a house together. Most of the important stuff is mine. I have recently done the math and figured out that it'd be a struggle, but I could afford it. I also know I can ask for mre hours at work. I have a cat and so does he. I'm an animal person and already miss his cat, and I haven't left. We got a dog together, but I paid for her and everything we needed for her. I don't know, I kinda don't know what to take and leave on somethings. Like, there are some things I have and don't really use that he does, the nice thing would be to leave them since he'll have hardly anything anyway, but I feel like I should take them. If it's mine, or I paid for it and it wasn't a gift, I should take it, right? I mean, this is stuff I could sell for money to help with my bills. He's changed his mind several times about whether he is going to let me stay until I find my own place and most recently, it's that I'm kicked out as of tomorrow. I also had some money in savings that wee took out, which we agreed when we took it out to put it back before it ran out. We also decided to split the amount. He wants time to pay it, and that wasn't the agreement...what should I do? I would only need a place to stay for a few more weeks, if that. I have most of the things I need for my own place, but I've never actually been on my own. Because of this, I'd like some suggestions on things to make sure I have that I may not have thought of. I am by no means dumb, so please, no common sense stuff. Just because I'm only eightteen, doesn't make me dumb. Any advice? Anything you know about where to get finacial help when moving or just about living all on your own for the first time? I know how to budget money when I need to. I don't know...I'm just kinda freaking out.
Just take what u need to settle at your new place, stuff that belong to u, including the stuff that u could sell to buy new stuff. Leave the things u don't need, unless he wants u to take everything. I think a break-up is painful enough, u don't need to add petty details to the list of arguments u might already have with your ex... Good luck with everything!
I took everything. I told him if it wasn't there before I got there, he paid for it, or it was given to him, I was taking it. Most everything was mine. He put his hands on me and left bruises, so after that, I don't care about him. I even have his cat, but that's because he knew Emit would be better off with me and gave him to me. I only took one thing that wasn't actually mine, our dry-erase calender. But I'm the one that used it, he never did. And he broke something of mine, so I figured a $10 calender he didn't even use was a fair trade.
Good for you for getting out of that situation. It looks like you have done what you needed to do, now its time to relax and try to get over him. No matter what happens in life, it gets better. Best wishes.
Shouldn't you consider reporting him to police? Break ups are hard, everyone knows that. Keep strong! I thing you did good by taking all the stuff. You don't have to use them if you feel they remind you of him. What about your parents? maybe they could support you financially?
