Hey all, A few months ago I dreamed that I had fallen in love with a beautiful woman. I am in my mid 30's, so it's not my first dream like that. But the feelings I had and the interactions we shared were at least as real as anything when I'm awake. And just like being awake, the memories fade. What I do remember is that we hadn't known each other long. We were together and fully aware of our mutual love for one another. I think we had friends around, and it was a relatively relaxed atmosphere. But the love we felt was so prominent and seemed like the very reason we were sharing this dream. I remember seeing her face, big brown eyes and wavy long dark brown hair. She was average to petite in size. It felt as if there was no reason to think we wouldn't see each other again. She told me she loved me when we were embracing. I knew that I loved her, undeniably. The emotions were so intense and we'd fallen in love so fast. Her telling me that she loved me, shook me. My insecurities set in, just enough for me to not answer, but instead just hug her tighter. I felt that there would be plenty of time to tell her that I love her too. But I was wrong. I woke up with a thick passion in my heart, high on life. But wished I had told her that I love her. I still wish I had. I am married and have kids. I wouldn't have it any other way. My wife and I have a very good relationship and love each other deeply. We have regularly discussed the idea of opening our relationship to include others, however it certainly has not been a huge focus in our lives. I suppose "polyamorous" is the term. How this all ties together, I'm not quite sure. I believe more people than we are aware of have fallen in love when dreaming. Sometimes it's a vague notion, other times may feel very real. After reading a few dream interpretation responses to this specific subject matter, I realize that many people feel there is not much basis in reality for these type of dream state interactions; that they represent nothing more than where we are in ourselves or our subconscious desires, limitations, insecurities, etc... To me, awareness is power. To become aware of ourselves and our feelings gives us the power to further ourselves and our personal understandings of our relationships with others. Dreams are many things, personal and interpersonal experiences. Just like in our waking lives, we can have our own experiences or we can share experiences with others. There is an illusion that we are so separate in life. So the same must be for dreams, right? I don't feel that way. In fact I feel that we are more interconnected than most people realize; in some ways more than we have the potential to understand. I am an inter-dimensional traveler and have learned for myself that I can share dreams and other-worldly experiences with people and spirits that are operating on similar frequencies; enough so to facilitate mutual experiences on these levels. In my mind and heart I shared this dream with her. I know it was real, because I trust myself that much. I know the difference between imagination and "reality". I anticipate this philosophy will not sit well with many people. I am interested to hear from those that have an interest in these matters and are open to interpersonal and inter-dimensional awareness and experiences.
I only got halfway through that, but I think I've had similar experiences in the past. Seriously, paragraphs are your friend!!!
I've had this happen before. It was maybe 18 years ago but I still totally remember how getting hugged felt in the dream. From behind. I still miss it and wonder what could have been, and nothing actually happened? It seems impossible.
your lover may well exist only in some parallel universe, and only in dreams will you be together. but that is the wonderful thing about dreams. that you can travel in them to such places and form such relationships with people in them. it is not unlikely that you will have other dreams in which you will be together. it is not unlikely that you will not remember having them when you return to wakefulness in this world. only once in a while, a few in the many, will you likely remember on waking. but likelihood is not certainty. anything is possible. the least likely is that this person exists in the same universe we are awake in. or exists as one actual person, rather then compounded of aspects of several. as often has turned out to be the case in my own experience. rather then being a matter of doubting reality, it is rather that that place is that place and this place and these are two different places, both of which my be completely real, and not just in the imagination of those experiencing them. i still believe parallel universes are completely possible of being perfectly and absolutely physically real. and that one aspect of dreams may be perfectly capable of transporting our awareness between them. that doesn't make them any less separate and completely not overlapping places though.
+1 You may have encountered a soul dreamer or an important principle in your life personified in this dream love. Appreciate the experience, that is your job, just to acknowledge and accept that you had that experience and it means exactly what it meant to you in the dream. I love that you shared your dream philosophy. I share that as well. Your dreamer(s) may or may not feel the same way, but it doesn't really matter because the affect of the dream is not tampered by "reality". I have fallen in love in the dream time...and it bled over into a real life long-term relationship. However I have had other dream loves that bled into life in a different way...a quick connection...just a reminder of how powerful and subtle love is. I learned that love is more than romantic relationships and that what we do in our dreams is often beyond what we do in our waking life and just can't demand, expect and judge that. It has its purpose in our lives and whatever it is we will learn it in time. From dream teachers one of the most important lessons I've learned is that when we often feel the need to take action and do something outside of ourselves, what we actually need to do is nothing...not even thinking, just allow our internal and multi-dimensional nature to move and progress. In other words, you might just be in for an inner awakening of your view of what dreams are and what dreams mean... Only time will tell.
