Is this wrong?

So I was at a birthday party with my wife Saturday night at a club.

My mate and his wife were also there and they must have had an argument before they got there. My wife was off talking to some of her friends and I got stuck in a corner talking to the grumpy couple. Anyway they started arguing about what she was wearing and my mate ended up telling her she looked stupid and she "can get fucked" he was going home and he walked off. She was upset but not crying or anything do I said "I think you look hot", just to make her feel good even though I didn't really think it - I have never been attracted to her. Any way she says "really, thanks".

By this time she had had a couple of champagnes and then she turns her back on me and starts rubbing her ass against me. I looked around - no one was watching and my wife was on the other side of the room. For some reason my cock was hard in an instant and that made her move her ass against me even more. I reached around her waist, she is a bit on the plumpish side with very plain looks, and straight away she puts my hand down her pants. She was dripping wet.

Next thing I know she has dragged me into this nearby stairwell/fire exit, pulled her pants around her knees and hands against the door so no one could come in and says "fuck me". Without even thinking I pulled my cock out, now so hard it was hurting and shoved it in and pounded her so hard we both came in less than a minute. It was seriously the best fuck I have had in 10 years.

Almost the instant I came inside her the inevitable rush of guilt passed through me. She says "thanks, but this is a one off and no one can ever know" I said "no problem". She pulls her pants back up and we went to go back in - door locked, so we walked down 4 flights of stairs out the fire exit and back up the lift into the party. I casually walk over to my wife, leaving her as I walk in, and pretend nothing happened.

Is this wrong, I feel so guilty but holy shit I enjoyed it and get aroused thing about it now.

 

You know the answer to that big guy.

 

The fact you even have to ask that question is worrying enough...

 

The answer = yes, it is wrong.

You cheated on your wife, with your friends wife. You feel guilty, thats normal, in order to feel no more guilt then you need to be truthful, whether you are or not is in your hands. You made the mistake, its your responsibility to rectify it. I won't call you an asshole because we all have temptations, but what you did was wrong! Your choices are to either be truthful, and maybe lose your wife and your friends, or to live for the rest of your married life in guilt, knowing that you betrayed your wife and your friend.

Honestly, what you do from here on out is your choice.

 

if you need to ask, then yeah, it is wrong. there's a reason it's called cheating. because cheating is wrong, wether it be at cards or with your partner. it's ESPECIALLY wrong because you're married, you made a commitment to that person and you still went around them to cheat. now i get that humans are NOT evolved to be naturally monogomous. i get that it's a forced stigma that socioty puts on us. but for gods sake be honest about it. just because it's natural to do so dosn't mean you should surround it in lies and deciet. think about how you'd feel if you learned your wife had done this with your friend rather than you with his wife? think about how you'd feel if you found out about that and that she was hiding that from you. well that's what you're now putting her through. only about 5 times worse because women tend to be more emotional than men. tell her or don't, eaither way there's gonna be a lotta pain, and you may eventually lose your wife, and/or your friend. but only one way is the "right" way and that's honesty. and if you let this stew, and keep it hidden for however long, then the fallout is only gonna be that much worse. treat it like a band-aid and rip it off quick

 

i agree with kilofoxx... and i would add some insults, but i'm not sure it's allowed.

 

shit happens.

 

Thanks for your advice (I think). It just happened so fast, i don't know what I was thinking?

 

alcohol and hormones unfortunately got in the way of thinking, and she took charge it seems. you could have stopped at any point though, so no excuses really.

was it worth it?

 

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Did I enjoy it? Yes, I'd be lying if I said I didn't. It was probably the most exciting sex I have ever had, even though it was over pretty quickly.
Was it worth it? Hmm, if I get found out I don't think so. Not sure I can tell my wife and mate about it though, I've got too much to lose for the sake of a 5 min drunken encounter.

 

it's not wrong to tell made up stories on the internet, but it is pretty annoying.

 

I guess you do your own washing, then, because I bet she'll smell another woman on your clothes.

 

Dude, it's not made up

 

i've never cheated, but from all the accounts i've heard about it (and i've heard a lot) Rule #1 is: Sooner or later, you WILL get caught, the truth will always come out, OR things will end badly anyway without it ever being brought up (such as, the relationship ends, usually badly, before it's found out)

 

If you dont tell her then you have to live the rest of your married life in a prison of guilt, scared incase she catches on, scared of the rumours that could be spread. The relationship will probably break down because of that alone, whether she finds out or not, im going on experience here except we weren't married and had only been with eachother for a few months but it was still a commitment and a barrier of trust that I broke. Not only did it make me the most paranoid person ever but it made me act like a complete bitch all the time! It's not worth putting yourself and your wife through that...

If you decide to stay, don't get her pregnant! That wouldn't help matters...

 

Ah, who cares. Marriage isn't about love or fidelity or any of that crap. It's about pooling together money so you can buy stuff and bringing up more little shits who can be exactly the same as you and cheat on their own spouses, and so you don't get lonely in old age.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

Shouldnt it just be called wrong then

So it would be less wrong if he wasnt married. But let me guess still the guys fault because she is married

She made a committment to her husband as well

The lies and deceit that occured during the 60 seconds of drunken squishy nightclub sex?

Isnt this going to make him wonder how many times his wife has done such a thing?

Or its all a lie to cover up this kind of behaviour


If you want to preserve the sanctity of marriage shouldnt you be doing something about the rest of the sisterhood first? But you dont because you know what they are all really like

 

@gorilla
i never said the woman wasn't at fault, she's just as guilty for cheating on her husband.

and don't throw some "preserve sanctity of marrage" crap at me, i'm gay, it's ILLIEGAL for me to marry in most states and that sanctity BS is used as a reason to keep it that way.

it's still a lie if you never mention it, it's called a "lie by omission"

cheating on someone you made a commitment to is always wrong, and you shouldn't need a bunch of strangers on a forum to tell you that.