I had sex for first time and couldn't have orgasm

Hi. I am 23 year old guy and had sex yesterday for the first time. It was with a lovely prostitute. Now I spent 1.5 hours with her and couldn't have orgasm neither with me inside her nor with her giving me fellatio. However fellatio felt simply awesome. I just wanted her to go forever. This 1.5 hours included foreplay as well not just penetration. The orgasmic feeling just didn't come. In the end I had to masturbate while simultaneously kissing her. Now the whole experience except my non-orgasm was just mind blowing. For the first time I had seen a girl naked for real and touched her all over.. saw for REAL what a vagina looks like..felt her soft skin...kissed her... simply too good. She was so cute and adorable.. What I also noticed that for the first time my foreskin retracted much over the glans of the penis because it was very much lubricated under arousal. Thank God cos I was beginning to think I had phimosis.

Anyway, the point is that I couldn't have orgasm. Now I have been masturbating for more than 9 years now, which I think is the reason I couldn't orgasm. My body and mind have gotten used to having orgasm in a specific way. I also masturbate with a different grip, not the normal "mike holding" grip. That doesn't bring much pleasure. I put all the fingers around the penis's first 1/3rd length, i.e. including the glans, as if I am cupping the 1/3rd penis from above with my fingers. This is how I started masturbating and this is how it feels good for me. Since I tried having O for the first time in a different way i.e. sexual intercourse, I think that was the problem.. Let me describe my built as well. I am the thin type they call ectomorph but have sufficient strength. I think the rocking motion that is needed during intercourse, my body couldn't produce well..

How can I have really enjoy sex WITH orgasm?? Please help me! I want to have the feeling of having orgasm inside a girl. I am gonna go to that place again the day after tomorrow. I might choose a different girl.

 

You have to understand that it's mental, it's emotional. You might have trouble having an orgasm with a prostitute. Meet a real woman and connect with her.

 

agreed with Mr. Writer, it's about as much mental as it is physical.

and for the record, i doubt masturbation has anything to do with it. i do several times a day (around 5 lately) and have regularly for years with no effect. if you really want to increase sensetivity and have an easier time, simply go a while (between 3-7 days) with NO touching. (it should also produce a better orgasm)

 

So does it mean that had I not masturbated for 3-7 days, I'd have achieved orgasm inside her? It seems that the idea is that if you don't touch the penis other than sexual intercourse with a girl, even the new sensations of the inside a vagina will result in orgasm?? The penis won't know the difference and it just needs the "built up pressure"??

 

Well you'll hear every reasoning under the sun, except the simplest one.

Relative to every one else, you are just not that sensitive down there.

The male bravado will prevent you from ever getting the truth, at 23 the vast majority would be lasting in that 5 to 20 min range, only a small percentage would last 1.5 hours, and an even smaller percentage having to resort to strangling the chicken as it were after that to get the job done.

Its mental, no, just cos your brain works like thiers, you may be thinking of sex just as much, and not be able to think of anything besides sex around certain girls. Doesnt necessarily mean your body matches up. And the girls have a 6th sense about this, well the hot ones do anyway, and they are going to go by how your body reacts, not your brain, they cant see inside your head.

Two guys, both thinking of sex as much as each other, ones cheeks instantly go red and he has to immediately hide the boner, with the other that doesnt happen they are just umming and erring what to say. From the girls perpective its dead easy to spot the difference. From the guys perspective its not, cos they just arent paying attention to themselves, looking from the outside anyway

Just that fact that you use words like cute and adorable give it away, a guy that goes to a hooker and busts a nut in two minutes isnt going to talk like that. Then theres the fact you waited till 23, if down the other end of the spectrum at 16 you would have bugged and bugged them till one of them at least gave you a handjob and then it would have gone from there, too crazy frustrated to worry about what they might think of you

IF the problem is that that thing needs to be pretty much strangled in order for you to cum, you need to find a girl that likes it rough and mean, and she aint going to be cute and adorable

 

Well, it's not that I consciously made a decision to wait till I was 23. I was just not that type of guy earlier..like most of the guys I didn't know the "what and how" of girls behaviour and picking them up.

So what you wanna say is that I have less sensitivity? That I need a rough girl? Well, I dunno because I've had sex just once.. May be what you say is right, may be it's not.. May be I need more sexual encounters to know better.. what do you think??

 

i'm not saying you would, but it should increase sensetivity if that's your problem(it should also produce a bigger orgasm)

 

Wow, I'm the first voter that had a smooth and wonderful first time I was 13 and she was 16, and I still remember what that first time felt like, and still sometimes think of it when I make love. I went in bareback and it only took a minute or so, and I came very hard. I also remember her dancing with her hips as I moved in and out of her.

 

I didn't come the first time I had sex either. I think I wasn't in the right mindset.

 

It is all about the mind. I have no problems cuming during sex unless it's the first time with her. There is a lot of pressure to perform and your wondering if your any good and such. Stop thinking about it and just masterbate with you dick inside her. If you hooked up with a hooker then she can careless about how big or good you are. Use her for the sex and cum

 

ever think about having sex a 2nd time? ..

 

just because your first prostitute was a tranny doesn't mean they all are...

 

Then again I was 15 and probably not fully developed in the crotch.