I've been with my boyfriend three years, we were each others first and when we begun we decided we wouldnt have sex all the time to keep it special, now we hardly see each other due to work and we're always tired so we dont do it alot. but whenever we have sex I dont get turned on or excited, dont feel any pleasure and sometimes its over really quick. I've never had an orgasm either, I've watched videos of girls pleasuring themselves and tried to do the same for myself but it never works and doesnt feel that good. how can I get the spark back and get turned on for sex. when I do get really horny it just seems like a huge let down, but I dont want to say anything to him because he always apologises if he thinks he came to early..I dont know what to do
Are you on any meds? Those can lower sex drive. It sounds more like a technique issue thoguh. When you masturbate, make sure your clitoris is wet and stimulate it using your middle finger by rubbing it incircles or flicking it back and forth. You might need visuaol stimulation so fantasize or watch porn or read erotica while rubbing your clit. Your vagina should start getting wet which means you're about to cum. You'll know you. Came if you feel a burst of pleasure and your vaginal muscles are contracting. Hope this helps.
Thankyou, I've not been on any meds but I've started taking Iron + Vitamen C supplments in the last few weeks
I've read that it's a good idea to learn to give yourself an orgasm before you can expect someone with little or no experience to do it for you. When I had my first, I simply began rubbing myself in a way that felt good, and just kept doing it. Suddenly, and without warning, I came. I think the key is to just let it happen as apposed to trying to make it happen.
