Ok so I dated this girl for a couple months and I thought we really hit it off. We had a lot of common interests (photography being a big one) and things seemed to be going well until she called it quits out of no where (giving me the "I just got out of a serious relationship excuse")... Anyways, I was pretty down after that and I let things go, no texts/emails or any contact towards her. I told her if she ever wanted to hang out again, you know my number. Which leads me to my question. Its been about 3 months and haven't heard anything from her. I remember her telling me how much she was into Instagram on her phone, and with us sharing an interest in photography, she ended up turning me on to the app and now I use it quite frequently. I came across her on there and was wondering, would it be legit to drop her a line? Maybe start following her and write a comment or 2 along the lines of "hey how are things? I like your pics, hope all is well" Something like that... Keep in mind I REALLY liked this girl. I know most of you are thinking just fucking get over it, right I get that. But after finding her on Instagram and seeing her pictures, it has re-sparked the feelings and interest I had towards her and would hope that she would one day give me another shot... Thoughts?
Uh I've been in the same situation several times and has never worked out lol so yeah sure give it a try, you never know
I describe it to people as similar to Facebook but with pictures only. Its essentially a photo sharing social media application. You post pictures and can add creative filters to them (thus making shitty pictures look more artsy), then "hashtag" your photos similar to Twitter. You can follow people and you have a news feed of their pictures they post. Anyways since I'm into photography I like the concept although I prefer to use Flickr for sharing my real SLR photographs in high resolution. Back to my original post, basically I'm thinking if I "follow" her on Instagram and maybe drop a comment or 2, she might check out my pictures and maybe there could be a spark of interest again. Who fucking knows I guess I just wanted to know if I would be a complete lame ass for trying that, I wouldn't want to completely creep her out. At the same time I could always try sending her a text or email... I don't know. I hate this shit! Fucking women.
your right, im going to say move on. find one who actually tried to keep in touch with you, then go for it.
I think sure, follow her definitely. That would peak her interest / remind her of you / let her know you're happy and living life without her. Just never say a word. She'll think of you. ..Pathetic but it could work.
I disagree. She has ALL the power right now. If you slink around with little compliments,inquiries and such,she''ll think you're a sniveling loser that doesnt have anything else going on. (maybe you don't) . If I were you(and I am-right now) ,I would compliment her on her work when deserved,but let the woman be.
+1 Personally I think you should set your sites and standards on a girl who want to spend time with you as much as you want to spend time with her. This one obviously isn't her and it probably wasn't meant to be, I'd say leave it but ultimately I think you have already decided if you are or aren't going to contact her.
Definitely worth a shot man. If you really like her. Also, it might help to - if things go ok - tell her that you will give her a serious relationship.
She called it quits and she knows where you are if she changes her mind. If it's been 3 months, she hasn't changed her mind. You will just come off as creepy and stalker-like. Time to move on.
Thanks for the advice, sounds like I have mixed answers but ultimately I think I just need to let it go. If only it were easy to do so...
If you want to drop her a line, then drop her a line. But...Are you prepared for her to ignore you? If it would cause you pain to be ignored, you may be better off moving on. Or, maybe you need for her to ignore you so that you know it is really over, and you can finally move on.
