I have absolutely no idea what to do with my life

Hi! I´m 23 years old and hopefully in a year and a half I will be graduating as an Art History teacher and Curator. All these time my parents told me I shouldn´t get a job and just focus on studying. I still felt guilty so I got a job in retail. I was supposed to work everyday including saturdays and sunday for nine hours without sitting down. I came back home crying so my parents told me to quit. I did and now I´m looking for a job that requires less hours. Today, my father told me he knew a guy who could get a job and that I should give him my résumé. I have two VERY important tests in two weeks so I told my father I would send the résumé after the test so if they hired me I could start working without a problem. As soon as I said this both my mother and father told me everyone works and studies at the same time and I should do the same. They basically told me the opposite of what they´ve been telling me all these years. They also told me that when someone read my résumé and found out I have no experience they were gonna throw it away because I´m "useless". They also tell me all the time that the world is terrible, everything is disgusting and that one is only happy during childhood. I am a very positive person, very sunny and bubbly and I always felt guilty for being like this because everyone around me is so dark and depressed. Now I feel as if the past years I spent studying were a waste of time. Sometimes I feel as though the only thing that would make me happy is living in the countryside growing food, raising animals and listening to music alone without people around me confusing me!! What am I supposed to do? is the world really that bad? am I wrong for being so sunny and thinking one deserves to be happy?

 

The happiness and sunshine comes forth from within. Hold onto it and it will guide your footsteps. Be true to yourself.

Your parents are probably trying to gear you up for adult responsibilities. They want you to be ready for reality. Who says their reality has to be your reality?

Your life is what you choose to make of the opportunities and circumstances. Attitude makes all the difference in how you experience life.

 

You are not wrong. I think everyone deserves to be happy, it just takes time. You've got to find that peace within yourself. Also, in this life, your life, you have to do what you want. Find what you love to do & do it & expand it. I'm only a high-school graduate and don't have much experience in work, jobs, college, etc. But what I do know is that you are in control. You don't have to let other people tell you what to do. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, except yourself. Do what makes you happy, always. There may be some bumps in the road, but that's just all part of the process. You are the creator of your destiny. Make it beautiful.

 

Yeah, I think you just have to find a balance. I've had periods where I was extremely sunny and then periods where I was cynical and distrusting. You have to know your responsibilities, know when to be serious and put in the work, and just have common sense, but you can also have a good attitude and look at things positively. Don't let stuff like what your parents say faze you and don't let failures keep you down. Miserable people want to make other people miserable, don't let them, just rise above it.
As for what you're supposed to do, it sounds like your fine. Things will happen how they will. If you can find the time to submit the resumes, then I would. Sooner is better than later, and the job may not always be there. But if you really think you can't, then just concentrate on your studies. Try for other jobs later.

 

Well,one thing you can do is get away from your negative parents and anyone else that is negative. Get your studies done properly (it's always good to have a trade-always), and get yourself around some positive people that don't look at the world as being disgusting and terrible. Sure,some of it is like that,but life is way too short to let others bring you down with reminders of it. Once you get your education--no one can take it away from you.

 

Stop listening to your parents. Grow up, cut the ambilical cord.

 

The world can be a bad place, but without people like you, being sunny and bubbly then it would be worse!

Be who you are, don't let anyone tell you how to be, you are yourself. Study your degree, get a job you want to get! Childhood is a time of innocence and pure joy which gets drowned out as you get older and come into the working world, you can still be your inner child, don't let him be pushed back inside.

There is no such thing as an unnecessary smile. Negativity brings the world down, positivity and bring it where-ever you like

 

At The Age Of Sixteen,I Found Myself At The Crossroads Of My Life's Wishes.To Be Somebody Or To Be Nobody.I Chose To Be Nobody And That Gave Me The Freedom.I Did Not Want To Be Rich,Famous And Live The Way They All Lived.I Wanted To Wake Up With Singing Birds And Fall Asleep Watching The Stars.I Had No Money But I Had A Lot Of Friends All Over Europe.Travel By Hitchhiking,It Was Easy,And Did Not Cost Me Anything.Almost Ten Years The Highway And Various Communes Were My Home.
Wonderful Memories For A Lifetime.
I've Never Regretted What I Spent A Life Free As A Bird.
What I Got What I Lost?
I Have Not Created A Career,Money,A Special Place In Society...I Never Become Somebody.
Who Is So Sure That Is His Youth Spent In The Best Possible Way?
This Is My Way Of Being Happy,Not Yours.
You Have To Find What You Want To Be In Life,And What You Want To Give Up To Be Happy.Your Parents Want You All The Best In Life,But Only You Know What Is Best For You.By The Way,I Never Doubted The Intelligence Of My Son And I Let Him Choose The Own Path To Happiness.
Only Once We Are The Owners Of Our Youth,Only A Very Short Time, And That Is Why We Must Grab And Take All That Youth Offers.

 

stop listening to what other people want you to do ,

 

Very Wise And Correct Advice.

 

So Very True...



Cheers Glen.

 

Dear, dear Sagittarius Sun,

The world is not terrible,
Everything is not disgusting,
The only happy time is not just during childhood.
Remain a very positive, sunny and bubbly person.
And for damn sure, don't feel guilty for being like that when everyone around you is dark and depressed. Be around other people.

Have the past years been a waste of time? Do you feel better because of what you learned? If yes, then good. If no, then, oh well, it's the past - learn from it and move on.

Living in the countryside growing food, raising animals and listening to music, alone without people is a fair description of my life & let me tell you, it ain't bad. That is what I've done & it has worked for me.

Do what feels right for you, FOR YOU!!!

Will you try somethings & they turn out to not be right? I damn near guarantee it, but so what? At least you do it, at least you tried, at least you won't end up saying, "What if...". You'll learn, you'll move on, you'll narrow down on what you are happy doing. And that may change, happens to a lot of us, go with it.

Dear heart, the thing says you've only made one post, I really & truly hope you check back here.

If you do, please let us know, there are folks here who care.

Peace,
poor_old_dad

 

Man or woman im 24 live in fl and have been on my own since the ageof 18. Trust me i know how you feel, i never had the oppertunity to know my dad he didnt want anything dto do with me no birthdaycard no christmas and hey died may 5th 2012, the point is do what makes you happy you said you went to school for history just focus on one thing and run with it. The mian thing ........... Is that your happy

 

I'm in my 60s and this is a happy time of life - so life doesn't have to be downhill. LOL, I just realized I'm happier now than when I was a child.

Like Scratcho said, hang in there, get your papers from the uni and away you go.

I've read a lot of resumes, c.v.s, applications, etc. If you have credentials, decent grades, and present yourself well you'll be fine.

 

you just answered your question

oh i live in the country and raise crops and soon will get animals and i listen to music and help my amish and mennonite neighbors who are all lovely people :2thumbsup:

 

seek Jehovah

 

ditto and i went to college when i was 38 to 40 for enrichment not a career .. i also skipped high school during the 70's ..

 

This is one of the greatest things that I have ever heard.

 

I'm a father of a young man who is going through what you are going through. I am pleased to be still able to help him. He approached us and asked us to let him do it his way. We have, and he is. It s tough for a parent to let go. I'm just glad he is still in a decent relationship with us. Good luck man, peace

 

Sounds to me like your folks are very unhappy people and shame on them for not wanting thier child to find a better happy life. If you desire to be a teacher of art then you must teach with what is in your heart. show your students the beauty that an artist can create. art and poetry changes the world not war.