Good signs from girl, but wont respond to txt for date?

About a month ago i went to a shop and had a good conversation/flirted a bit with the young bird that worked there, we managed to get to know each other a bit. I was chicken sh_t to ask her out and left it at that.
Last week went to the store after not going there for a while and she starts talking to me, seems very friendly and chatty and says she remembers me from last time. Again we have a good conversation and get to know more about each other. I was too afraid to ask her out because her co-worker was in the store. Before saying good bye i said i hope to see her again and she said the same thing.

Friday i bump into her in the shops (she is on her lunch break) and she stops to say hello and have a chat. This time i man up and ask if we can do something one day if she is free and can have her number. She agrees, and when i ask her how you want to do this she grabs my mobile and puts in her name and number, so im thinking promising signs. When we say good bye she pats me on the shoulder, which i guess is a good sign. Also when she was giving me her number i said that it would be great to meet up some time and that she would be hearing from me, seems like she was ok with that.

I figure when i get home i should text her that she knows its my number, i also in the same text ask her if she wants to go meet up in place X when she is free. Perhaps it was a bit "needy" asking her out a few hours after i got her number, but i figured better send her a txt soon because she does not have my number saved.

Anyway, 4 days later, no response. Bit strange considering i have been getting good (i think) signals.

I guess it would be best for you guys to see the txt i send to the girl:
"Hey X this is X. When you are free some time it would be great if we can meet up and get to know each other better. Maybe we can meet in they city for a drink and bite when your free?"

 

I forgot to describe the girl, i think she is 19/20, works in a video game store (LOL i know) and seems very friendly. She is attractive, but im guessing she wouldnt stick out in a nightclub. Maybe bit of a "geeky girl", lives with a single mother (yeah i know).

In hindsight i think i shot myself in the foot by asking to early and also not setting up a actual time/date.

My question is how would i improve myself in doing this in the future, and also what is my next move with this girl?

Might seem wimpy but im not to sure how to act when i see her next. I will be going to the same store to pick up a pre-order and have a funny feeling that i will be seeing her again.
To make matters worse speaking to a few friends of mine they seem to think that her patting me on the shoulder and saying goodbye is her being/feeling sorry for me, which thinking about is kind of making me in the dumps

 

maybe she realized that it would be awkward dating you when you're both named X.

really, it could be any number of things. more likely than anything else is that she was just being friendly because that's her personality, and then when you asked her out she was too much of a pussy to turn you down and just gave you a fake number.

or maybe the text didn't go through.

 

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Hey everyone, i kind of decided to try call her for the sake of things, but i have learned my lesson and from now on i will call instead of txt and will set a time and day.

She answered the phone but didnt know it was my number lol

Was friendly to talk to, but she was at work so she couldn't talk for long. Basically told her i would be in the city this sunday and would be great if she could join me.

She said that would be great, but she would get back to me by txt if she can come LOL

So im guessing not interested. Well now i know for sure, and this will be the last try by me

 

You should have been like, soo did you get that text i sent you?

 

I think if you really want to know, you set up something with a few people, say you and some friends are going to meet up at a park and see if she wants to come there at a certain time...if she says she's not available, ask her when she is if she wants to go to a show/movie/awesome cafe' that you've been wanting to try, set a time and date that works for her.

Or she might just want to get to know you a lot better before she meets you in that kind of way and I don't blame her. Some people would rather get to know someone from a bit of a distance before going on a date.

It really could be a number of things based on her personality. But if she is really interested, (and she might not know if she is or how interested she is right now), if she is she will either try to get together or let you know she would like to but can't for whatever reason.

 

BUT SHE PAT HIS SHOULDER


yea typically calls > texts

 

Patting his shoulder...could mean she wanted to touch him and felt comfortable with him... I've done that before and its an awkward way to not get too touchy with a guy you like but don't know that well.

 

And also, as a girl, I can't stand when dudes text for everything. I like to hear a voice, it is more than casual for a more than casual request.

 

As I read this thread, I was thinking...

ARE YOU FOR REAL DUDE????? If you want a chick to go out with you ALONE, you damn call her. period.

But I see you FINALLY did that. Good for you.

You seem nice enough...don't be stupid.

 

Really, I thought women love to sex texts mainly, guess not all.

To the OP, that pat on the shoulder in my opinion was her way of sayin good try. You said you called and she answered, if she agrees to met you and doesnt stand you up, your good. If she doesnt, just be nice to her when you go to GameStop (ex manager), so she wont mess up your reserves. Odd question, what did you reserve?

 

just another one of their games. they love texts, but every once in a while you have to actually call, and you have to magically know when that is or else you're not worthy.

 

Actually i don't like texts at all...but I tolerate them.

Yeah there is a such thing as cell phone etiquette, just as there is netiquette...it shouldn't matter your gender or sexual preference.

There are things that you text about and there are things that you call for.

Instant messaging on the computer is a bit different, in my opinion.

 

i've backed off asking for girls numbers because number 1: having a girls number does not automatically equal date. 2: how many times have you texted 10,000 messages with a girl and nothing came of it? 3:don't know what else just thought i should have at least three things.

 

While I agree in a general sense to everything that has been said, I've found that what is considered proper or not via communication and what method of communication is acceptable or offensive to the said person, and therefore the possible relationship.

Changes and is dynamic from person to person.

Basically: there are no rules.

 

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