Moving in with boyfriend but confused

Hello everyone
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we are about to move in together. I have never really found men, or anyone for that matter, attractive ( I have only been with him) even when I feel in love with him I wasnt really sexually attracted to him.
As the day of us living together is getting closer I have found myself more and more attracted to women. I didnt used to be attracted to anyone, but about a month ago I watched a film which turned out to be about lesbians... since that day I have actually found myself attracted to women.
A week ago at a party a female friend kissed me for fun and I felt so used for some irrational reason. I know that it was wrong of me but people do irrational things when they are confused.
I appologize for the post being very long, but that is my situation. I love my boyfriend dearly but am afraid of letting him go for something that could just be my mind playing tricks with me. I feel that I can't find out because I am in a relationship and such a thing would be cheating.
So what do I do and what could it be?
I am 20 by the way

Thank you in advance

 

Try it out, if it doesnt work out, move out. I just moved in with my girlfriend and im not too sure either (not about my sexual orientation, but about the relationship), but I figure I'll never know until I've tried.

Also, maybe this whole girl thing is you getting cold feet and trying to find any excuse you can... my opinion is give it a shot and see what happens.

And if you do like eating the ole taco, hell, I cant blame ya!

 

Talk with him about that.

 

I have told him but he freaked out and said that if I did anything about it, it would be cheating, which is true, as a result I am stuck in my situarion :/

 

Whereas many people tend to believe that sexual orientation is a matter of genetics, and that we were simply born gay, str8, bi or whatever, this has not stopped anyone from experimenting, and/or following their urges.

Moving in together after being one item for the past four years IS a big thing in anyone's life. Let alone if you are only 20.

Adopt the view that both your BF and you are growing and evolving. At this time, you are having a monogamous m2m relationship. You are also moving in together. More likely than not, your relationship will evolve. If you continue to be interested in women, raise that issue with your bf. He may be having thoughts of his own, too. Keep your relationship well and alive by communicating openly. Do not subscribe to the stereotype of monogamy a priori. Agree that everything is on the table, and that there should be no taboos for discussion.

People do fall in love, and start monogamous relationships. Some of it is a cultural trait. Some of it a matter of practicalities associated with daily living. Some of it is a result of our quest to be recognized and accepted by the environment we live in. No doubt, for some people this model works, and embodies their ideas of personal happiness and bliss.

By this very same token, other people enjoy open relationships, and still happily live together even for a long time. I know guys who live very happily together without having any relationship whatsoever.

So, moving in together actually has a great symbolical but only a limited fundamental value.

KD

 

you sound to me like you're just sensual, rather than sexual. (sensual is companionship, cuddling, et cetera for those that don't know) you do sound a little confused about your sexuality, but that's normal, you're 20. i'm 21 and still not entirely sure about myself (though i know i'm mostly gay)

you sound like you love your BF a lot and you're loyal to him (VERY good qualities in my opinion) and if you're confused about yourself you should look for his support through it (which he should give)

in all likelyhood. you sound somewhat like me (though not as sexual) i'm TECHNICALLY bi, buthave so much of a gay preferance that it's easier to just say i'm gay. being bi and monogomus is tough. it means never being able to explore and experience that other side of yourself. it basically means constantly denying and depriving yourself of a part of yourself. it's not easy to do. (please note i am not suggesting you be polyamourous. while i realize monogomy is not for everyone it can still be a very beautiful thing, and it's a tremendous show of loyalty and love to your partner. alternatively i'm not suggesting you stay monogomous eaither. yes i'm confusing like that) essensially i'm not going to suggest, pr try and push any ideas on you. i'm just here to inform and allow you to make your own descision regardless of what i think.

of course, i could be way off-base and be reading you completely wrong. not something i'm known to do, but it's a lot harder to get an accurate read of someone when you're not in-person.

EDIT: oh crap i completely forgot about the moving-in part... i was so focused on the sexuality bit...

okay onto that... i don't really see moving in with someone as that big a deal, i moved in with my ex a few months after getting together with him, but hey, he's my ex now, so look how well that turned out. it does provide a good sortof "test" for the relationship, how you work together in close-quarters, seeing each other a lot more, living in the same area. but the added companionship is nice in my opinion. i will suggest this though. always, always, ALWAYS, always have a backup plan. a family member, a firend, a spare house, anything you can do in case things go bad. becausd if things don't work out, nothing sucks worse than being stuck with nowhere to go. i was almost in that position once and it terrified me. it might be a good idea to get yourself figured out better before you DO move in, however, moving in could help that immensly. just be wary, the companionship of having someone around/to sleep next to is kinda addicting. it's hard to cope without it once you're used to having it all the time (this is why Japan has that creepy arm-pillow thing...) i could barely sleep once my ex and i ended. and not because i missed him (he was an asshole and it's better that he's out of my life) it was because i no longer had someone sleeping next to me. and it was very hard to get over.