im a tad bit confused..i need you guys' help?

think he was mad @ me that I didn't say anything? and I mean a guy REALLY. has to like you to put himself out there and risk it infront of everyone right?

 

Whether he was or not, both of you need to get over it.

Holding grudges in the halls of life's romances are just a waste of energy. You've got to learn to just move on. But I can tell you these things, doing them is harder for some than others.

I really don't know what else to say but say good luck and be cool and live.

 

When my kids get caught up in some emotional high school drama, I always ask them why it matters so much...because chances are the person that they are so wrapped up in won't matter in a year. Why torture yourself mentally and emotionally over something that happened months ago? If you want to know what the deal is, pick up your phone and ask him. Then perhaps you can move on with your life....as he seems to have done (ie: dating someone else).

 

Does this parenting approach work? Or do the kids just take an attitude of "sigh you just don't get it mom/dad/guardian"?

 

I guess that could make sense but @ the moment it doesn't do that much for me. I just wanted someone to tell me in detail what really happened w/ the situation b/c I had 0 guesses as to what it was..

 

It works well actually. My kids have come to realize that most of the high school bullshit drama is a waste of time, and don't tend to get caught up in it like many of their friends do. It helps to give them examples like 'Remember Joe from 6th grade that upset you so much? Where is he now?' to illustrate what I mean when I say the person won't even matter in a year. So, yes it works....at least for my kids.

It also helps that my children and I are close and can have open and honest discussions. I am sure they think I don't 'get it' at times, but they also know that I do understand how difficult it can be to be a kid.

 

With one side of the story, and without any input from him, how would it be possible for anyone to know what happened? We can all guess, speculate or give examples from our own experiences....but no one can really tell you in detail what really happened...except him.