Hello I am a 14 year old girl, with a girlfriend. I know this is often not taken serious by people, but we are very serious about it and together for 4 months now... We've got a problem.. My parents are totally okay with the fact I'm lesbian, but her parents would totally freak out if they would know anything about it, so we haven't told anyone. But I would, actually, really like to just have it open.. Has anyone had a similar experience, or know a way to make her parents feel comfortable with it? Or is it better to just keep it secret?
I dont think her parents will be comfortable with it..you are 14 and this is an unnatural act..they would figure you would be going after 14 year old boys..dont confuse your good friend as a lover..
you're 14. it's too early to start complicating your life. and this is something that can leave one of you homeless or dead, in the worst case scenario. you may be serious about each other but you are too young to have the kind of perspective that a situation like this needs. which is, being out to other people, parents included, is not worth the risk of being kicked out of home or having your life severely monitored and restricted. it's fine telling friends etc, but people who have the power to change your life for the worse if they disagree with this, should be left out of that circle of trust. ?? what's unnatural about two people liking each other?
:iagree: What he said. If it's going to hurt you guys more than it is going to help you, I wouldn't take those steps yet. You have lots of time ahead of you girls. I still haven't figured it out yet and I'm 21. Thought I had it down at 16, guess not. Hope things are going well for you, and I hope your girlfriends parents one day accept her.
I find it hard to believe that any parent would make a child's life miserable for experiementing at an early age. I know my dad hated me for just about everything I did, but if I came out to him I'm pretty sure he wouldn't stop paying for my college or not want to see me during xmas or something. I just don't want to complicate things. I would, however, tell a few of your two's closest friends that you can trust to not have it get to the parents. If you are so sure that your parents are fine with it, you might even tell them and ask for advice. I think they'll probably say that it's too early to know yourself for sure and that they would just want you to be happy. good luck
You are young, too young to be worried about coming "out" and involving parents, some things are best left unspoken about. I know many parents who are NOT accepting of there teenage children being both gay and sexually active. At your age you are best to just not worry about labels and coming out there will be plenty of time to experience all of that when you are older. If you really want to cause a bunch of drama for both you and your friend and most likely end up not being able to spend any time at all with your friend then go ahead and tell her parents, just remember you're getting older, and you can only come out once and it should be when you are truly ready because there are consequences for actions and you do not need to subject yourself to hate and bigotry any earlier in your life than necessary. I want to say though I totally disagree that there is anything at all "unnatural" about being gay, only in the eyes of the many ignorant and bigoted.
Those people exist. You can take my word on that. Some parents make kid's lives miserable without them doing anything wrong.
