Would You Ever Cheat On Your Partner To Experience Sex With Someone Else?

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by nz male, Jul 23, 2012.

  1. nz male

    nz male Senior Member

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    So when do women usually go thru menopause - is this maybe one thing that my wife is going thru without it showing? She still has a monthly period?
     
  2. usedtobehoney

    usedtobehoney Senior Member

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    I almost mentioned that...are you asking if she still has a period? I hope you know that...

    if so, that could very well be the case.
     
  3. nz male

    nz male Senior Member

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    Yes, she still has periods, but never likes telling me when she's got one until I go to initiate sex , then I get told - out of bounds at the moment. That's usually the only way I find out. She doesn't have any idea as to when her menopause will start. One of our friends use to give her husband a chocolate bar when her period was due - that was his way of finding out beforehand.
     
  4. usedtobehoney

    usedtobehoney Senior Member

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    lol...so is this a cultural thing, perhaps? I thought new zealanders were more liberal.
     
  5. LoveBuzz

    LoveBuzz Member

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    no I would never cheat on my man NEVER!! I think it is wrong to cheat on a person for many diffrent reasons. If you are unhappy with your spouse you should speak with them and see if you can find common ground. It is a respect thing or thats how I see it atleast
     
  6. Fingermouse

    Fingermouse Helicase

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    Heartbreaking. I'm sorry your marriage has come to this. I would be tempted to print this out, plus a letter explaining why you posted what you did, how you've been feeling etc, and leave it somewhere for her to find...You sound unhappy. Maybe she is too.
     
  7. The Imaginary Being

    The Imaginary Being PAIN IN ASS Lifetime Supporter

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    it sounds like you have a sensationalist view of sex

    probably from watching too much porn.

    i mean you've obviously gone out to a store and bought toys

    without her consenting to it

    would she be asking so many questions otherwise?

    seems as though you're pushy and it's a mood kill.
     
  8. Josh Woodward

    Josh Woodward Member

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    You people are funny. Pretty much every guy that has opportunities to be with other hot women cheats.
     
  9. PEACEFUL LIBRA

    PEACEFUL LIBRA DAMN RIGHT I'M A WEIRDO

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  10. nz male

    nz male Senior Member

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    Re: my views on sex - yes I & my wife have a variety of certain things we both can & can't enjoy with each other for numerous / unexceptable & also enjoyable reasons. So we have to compromise or find other agreeable acts to do instead.

    Re: Watching porn , no I dont watch porn videos on the net - But I do like to see what others perform on either someone else or themselves & to see what other woman look like nude - nothing wrong with that. I have other ways of looking at porn on the net.

    Re: buying sex toys - I bought a few just to put a bit of extra enjoyment / spice into our sex life - just like many others do. Should I have needed my wife's consent - no, many other's have bought toys for their partners so they can add extra sensations / pleasures for them to enjoy without telling them they were buying them.
    My wife does enjoy 'some' of the items I bought & she does get lots of pleasure from them. It's just some I bought were not to her liking. So I stopped using them & were able to substitute their uses on myself in other ways. I didn't know how she would react at first when I started using toys on her originally & if they weren't suitable / acceptable, then thats my loss & her opinion on them accepted.

    Re: Pushy, no I just hoped I could find an agreeable way that I could put a bit of extra spice into our lives that overs get to experience as well- for pleasure etc. I buy the lubes she seems to get extra help / enjoyment from, as I apply them to her during sex when needed. Some have special effects (multipurpose massage / lube) added & others just for giving longer non drying out uses.
    My wife never touches her genitals during sex - she prefers my hands to stimulate her the way she & I both enjoy.
    I realise menopause will eventuate sometime within the next few years for her (she's nearing mid 50's) & just 'maybe' sex will be asked for by her & I may get the extra surprise of her initiating if she chooses or if she has a sudden sexual urge to - time will tell?
    Oral sex was one thing I had wanted to give her numerous times, but she had her own opinions on that subject, so now I just fantasise about how it would be so erotic to perform on an acceptable & willing partner who thoroughly loved recieving it. I would also love to recieve it myself but because my wife is totally against certain sexual acts - I wont get that pleasure unfortunately - never mind. I will just have to accept that.
    Yes, we all have dreams of sexual fantasies we'd love to enjoy & if they do (?) great - some get luckier than others & some dream & thats all they can do! Not all woman like oral & anal sex & find more variety in other ways they can enjoy to the maximum pleasure.
     
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