Kneeling down blowjobs

Okay, one of my utmost favorite things in the world is oral sex, both giving and taking. Nothing exceptional there, I'm sure. But the thing is, my favorite way of having her satisfy me, is with me standing up and she kneeling in front of me. I find I can hold out longer when standing, and the power exchange turns me on.

I've noticed, though, that among the girls I've been with, none of whom were, to put it bluntly, scared to suck a dick, there were a couple who felt the position to be a 'porno thing' and, if not specifically degrading, then still vaguely uncomfortable, perhaps 'politically incorrect' in staging a domineering male ego-fantasy, and so on and so forth.

I don't think it's quite like that for me - it's more I tend to get sleepy while lying down on my back. There's a different energy to standing as there is to sitting and lying down. I also prefer to play guitar standing, as I find I can give it my utmost concentration, while sitting down in a chair seems to entail distraction and a more lethargic frame of mind.

It's kind of annoying for me that when I'm with a new girl and oral sex becomes a possibility, I have to negotiate the kneeling in front while I stand and I don't want to be coming off as a douche to them, should they themselves be under the impression that said position is 'pornographic' or degrading or whatever. My orgasms are a hell of a lot more intense standing, though, and I just enjoy it a lot more this way, so I always end up going the way of standing up and seeing how she responds - if she's like, 'come here, daddy' or 'hellz no if you think I'm that kind of girl, and you should be glad I don't make you pull up the covers and turn off the lights'.

Okay, so to make a short story long, I'm just not sure when I stand up and have the girl take me in her mouth like this, if I'm really even doing myself a favor, since all the while I'm getting the blowjob, I'll be somewhere feeling in the back of my mind that she's thinking I'm a guy with a pedestrian wanting-to-be-sexually-domineering mindset, and that all the mild-mannered and cultured and humorous sides of me are but a facade, and this is the 'real me', just wanting to get 'serviced' like the next pig.

Now I've been with girls who've liked it a bit rougher and were for me thrusting into them, but the type of girl I tend to go for is a more 'innocent' type, who might be into it, but I can't help but imagine thinking I'm some kind of eccentric weirdo, likable in other respects, but markedly differing from the majority of men who, it seems, prefer to receive oral lying down. As such, the activity - fellatio - which to me is about complete acceptance of the other person, becomes a source of anxiety and doubts over whether she finds me weird or no.

I already know I'm being far too obsessive about this than is probably necessary, and to be frank, it's of no practical consequence as far as deterring me from having a satisfying sex life - it's more something vaguely pleasure-impeding that shoots through the back of my mind, just when 'normal' - if there is such a thing - men are probably enjoying themselves dumbly without a thought in their pretty little heads.

Okay, that's some rant, and I'll just close of by asking the ladies if there are ever negative/demeaning connotation to said position for you, or if it's more like the act of fellating itself: dirty if you do it with someone you're not into, wonderful if it's with someone you are.

 

Have your woman stand up while you get on your knees and lick her pussy. Then ask her to reciprocate. Take turns on your knees for each other. Have sex standing up. A change in sex position is NEVER degrading.

 

I don't think it's odd that you like to stand, it it doesn't at all turn me off. I'll happily service my lover while on my knees. No biggie at all. But, I'm not quite the "innocent" type you say you usually go for, so there's that..

 

Knees, hands behind back, work that pretty mouth of yours.

 

i have no problem getting on my knees as long as he does the same for me.

 

I don't like getting head while standing, I get to weak in the knees when I cum, sittings good.

 

I can't even masturbate while standing.

 

Maybe it is a position of submission, with the girl kneeling as a sign of wanting to please you. I like positions of both sumbission and degradation. For example, my standing with the girl on her knees, spreading her asshole wide apart, begging me to sodomize her. Extra degradation points when she wants to suck my cock straight out of her ass. The more degrading, the better, as it signifies that all the money I spent on the bitch has finally paid off.

 

I agree. I never kneel if he's not prepared to do the same. Don't have a problem with the position though. I've never felt degraded or submissive while giving a BJ - it's all about the attitude.

Besides if you're not into submission, bring her a low stool to sit down on or a pillow - it shows that you care. Don't hold her head, let her be in control. There's nothing submissive in that .

 

Have you tried taking a shower with her? My wife goes down on me in the shower when we take one together. There isn't room for either of us to lay down, so she gets on her knees. I'd never admit it to her, but the power I feel over her when she is on her knees in front of me is amazingly hot.

 

the only way I find it demeaning is when I'm giving a bj in that position and the guy is thinking of me as some kind of porno girl...or is just thinking about pornos

Personally I absolutely love giving my boyfriend blowjobs (lucky bastard lol) and sometimes I will kneel in front of him. I like that its a different position with a different viewpoint (for us both), allows him to grab on to my hair, and allows me to wrap my arms around his butt and make him thrust more..But what I like about this position the most would be that he can fall onto my shoulders when I go so deep it makes him weak in the knees lol

Besides, I love being both dominator and dominated, and this position feels like more of the latter. Perhaps getting a girl into this position is a 2-step process...
Step one would be to have sex with her the first time, and be gentle and sweet.. and in a more passive position (hopefully) she will give you oral. This way her first experience of you as a lover is gentle and caring. Step two comes with round two: now that she knows you can be a gentle lover, you gan get a little more rough with her. Perhaps standing up mid-way through intercourse, walking to the side of the bed where she's laying, and moving your cock in front of her face might, err.. get the job done. Of course, you always have to feel out each individual's level of aggression in the bedroom - no scaring her off! Long story short, if my boyfriend did this to me, I'd most likely give him a sly smile, then get to work

 

I find if I'm on my knees in front of a guy I always have to keep a hand on his shaft to stop him thrusting too far into my mouth. It's pretty easy for him to get a bit too over energetic and thrust a bit too much. However as long as I can have some control over the motion, then I don't find it degrading at all, just another fun thing to do with someone you enjoy being with.

 

I don't think it's an odd thing to like, and in the shower is particularly good.

 

Have you tried Rufinol?

 

I don't have any problem at all getting on my knees and giving head. One of the most memorable times came when a guy and I were jogging on a walking/running/biking trail. It was twilight, and the urge just came over us. We got a little off the trail and I got on my knees and got right to it. It was great fun - he just couldn't believe this was happening to him. The icing on the cake came when two girls on bikes arrived just in time to watch him finish. It was pretty dark, the bikes were quiet, and both of us were too involved to hear them coming. But they heard my guy cumming. LOL

 

kneeling down giving head is perfect position to finish with a load on her face