My girlfriend and hanging out with other girls

Hey there, professional lurker here. Long time no post. Anyway, here are the facts. I may be taking a strictly friendly girl with me to a concert, and I am afraid this will cause problems. I have been friends with this girl for a few years, much longer than I have even known my girlfriend. So I feel as if my girlfriend should not intrude on this very platonic, if that is the right word, relationship. My girl is always worried about me going to college and cheating on her and finding someone else etc, and seems to be the jealous type. She is worried because someone before me cheated on her, not because of me. I do not want to go alone to this concert and she is the only person I know that is available and that I would like to take.

I am of the opinion that I will hang out and be friends with whoever I damn well please, because I downright refuse to cheat. It goes against my morals completely and totally. I would break up with someone if I thought I found another lover rather than hurt them by cheating on them. I just don't want a fight, period. So pretty much I just need your opinions on this. Should I tell her who I am going with, don't say, or what? I'm flying blind here. If you guys need anymore info on anything ask, and you shall receive. Thanks so much guys and girls.

 

either way, you're taking your friend to the concert right?

 

If you don't tell her, and she finds out, there will be a huge fight, and she will take it as a breach of trust.
If you do tell her, and she freaks out; you have the moral high ground.

Tell her; stand your ground; and tell her you love her very much, but you won't heed to her jealousy.

 

I was going to tell her tonight, but she didn't answer her phone for whatever reason, so I will tomorrow when I hang out with her. I do believe you are right though, I have the high moral ground. I won't hold it over her head, just calmly explain that I am strictly friends, and that I am going to take her because she, my friend, will appreciate it most. My girlfriend can't go in case you were wondering. Well my friend may not be allowed to go as she is a only 17 and still living under her parent's house. I feel she may not go because she knows my girlfriend an would not want to stir up trouble, because she asked if my girl was ok with it. I asked my fried today, and tried to call my girl tonight to make it clear.

 

honestly, if it were me, I wouldnt have even told her I was going to the concert, let alone tell her I was bringing another girl.
but then again, I'm not the most trust worthy person in the world.
ignorance is bliss.

 

How long have you been with your girlfriend?

Depending on how long you've been together and the fact you live in two different towns it may be your responsibility to help feel more secure in the relationship and that she won't be cheated on. I don't think that's jealousy, just insecurity and I think it's to be expected if you haven't been together for long, her last experience was being cheated on and you live in different towns.\

That said I think she needs to get used to the fact that you have female friends and will want to hang out with them at time. Try to find the most gentle way to help her feel secure about that. Could you all go out together sometime before the concert? Or a chat together online?

 

I told her last night, and she wasn't bothered at all. I was so relieved. Very early on in our relationship she was very, very insecure about other girls and me, so that's why I was worried. Thanks a bunch guys for all your help, I really appreciated it. Now all I have to do is wait and have a blast at the concert. Thanks again guys and girls.

 

well, now that that's settled, who is the concert?? Did you go already? was it everything you hoped it would be?