Last night I hooked up with one of my co-workers from work. I felt a little bad about it because after we'd finished he told me that he was married still, but he and his ex-wife had sorta just screwed up, didn't stay together long, and had been living apart for 3 years now. I feel bad because my husband and I agreed we wouldn't have sex with people who were married/in closed relationships etc because that really bothers us. My husband's view on it was that he's been separated for 3 years, that's as good as divorced.
do you have coworkers that aren't from work? technically not divorced yet should not count as married.
It's called "swingers," and it's not really weird. Some people can distinguish better than others, the difference between "Love" and "sex."
Fuck that , Aint no fucking way im letting my wife fuck another man, Call me old Fashioned but i believe thats my pussy fuck i married your for if were gonna fuck other people shit we could just stayed as friends who fuck for all that.
I agree with both of you. I can distinguish the difference between love and sex when Im not in the moment and am thinking logicallly about it, I see no problem with it. Hey, to each his own, right? BUT...I think, rather, I KNOW I couldnt see my husband with another woman and I dont think it is because of any insecurities but more because of the way I was raised. Marriage is between two people (no matter the gender) of course, as I grew older I found out that most of my married family members were dipping in the swinging pot or cheating altogether so that kind of threw me off a bit but it seems that no matter how open minded I am, it would hurt me emotionally to see my husband with another woman. I feel that intimacy is something that we share and even when our sex is only sex and not love making, we still have a bond that I would rather not have interrupted or shared with anyone else. My husband cheated on me a while back and that has been the hardest part for me, knowing that he shared intimacy with another woman when it is so precious to us as a couple. We have since been working on that and it has been a long journey but we have a respect for our relationship now. I would also like to ask for no negative comments about that, it was hard enough for me to share that, I would rather not be judged or treated harshly for that confession.
Kudos for you for sharing and kudos for respecting the relationship enough to work it out. Not everyone is that strong, and while other might bug you for it, there are plenty who will also see it as a good thing.
Thank you! It's been a while so I can honestly say now that I feel I made the right choice. Was it easy? Not at all. I didn't stay because we had kids, I stayed because leaving never entered my mind as an option. I couldn't imagine my life without him in it, just as I couldn't imagine him doing something like that, noone could, its not his way. (well, apparently it was but we all make mistakes) I'm glad I stayed. I now have a wonderful marriage that I am completely thankful for and almost in disbelief of the goodness of it and my children have a strong sense of family.
yeah, just leaking down her leg is one thing but once it drips down onto the floor it becomes a potential health or safety violation.
Lindsay79 'hasn't' actually mentioned having sex with his co worker - just that they hooked up after work. Did he have sex or just socialise with her verbaly instead? I have hooked up with co worker before & never had sex with her - just got a bit friendlier with her than during working hours. No fondling type of stuff. But very close to it!
He's a very lucky guy getting a hand job - even I would accept that as a great substitute for vaginal sex. Guys don't always need intercourse for pleasure when there are other types of things a girl can do for them thats just as arousing & enjoyable.
Three years? He's back on the market baby. Get it if you can. And don't get caught fucking after hours in the copy room. Don't ask me how embarrassing that is.........
