Girls how do you feel head controlling while giving blowjob?

So I usually have hold the girls head while they giving a blowjob, like controlling the tempo and how deep the penis goes. But now I was thinking if they actually like it or not. They really haven't said anything about it. This one time after receiving a blowjob I gave oral sex to the girl and she also took hold of my head and pushed it little bit, so I wasn't sure if it was like a revenge trying to show me how it feels (I liked it, but maybe she didn't) or just she thought I'm into that.

So how do you like giving a blowjob, freemode or when man holds youre head and sometimes controls it?

 

i'm a gay male but i think i can lend some insight.

i like it occasinally (even so far as to manually move my partner's hand to my head) i like it because it lets them control depth and tempo, i can't feel what feels best for them, so i let them set it with that bit of control. he was 7.5" though and i'd have to pull back a bit from what he'd set, i still have a gag reflex after all.

honestly though, some people won't like it, and it's usually best to ask beforehand.

 

Thanks for insight. I have presumption that if my partner dosen't like something I do then she will stop me doing it or says it. Like if girl isn't into having finger in her butt, she will take my hand off from her butt when my hand start to move up there. Also this one girl just took my hands off from her head when I was to control the blowjob a little.

Like I feel that just going with the flow, no need to talk before the sex what is ok and whats not, as it will all solve out during the sex. Not that I'm going to piss on her, or something, lol. But just make some moves, so she can prepare what might coming, if its not ok, then she will make the move with her body. Also I ask always beforehand if I want to come to mouth, so no suprise cumshot or anal sex.

But sometimes I'm just not sure if my partner is doing something just because I want her to do it, so even if I ask if it's ok, she will tell it's ok, even that she dosen't really like it.

 

well keep in mind some people won't physically correct you for doing some things they don't like (like head controling) for various reasons. they may be afraid you'll react negatively, too insecure to do it on their own unless directly asked, they figure "well he must like that so i guess i'll put up with it" or a multitude of other reasons ranging from the sensable to the WTF? (i should mention on the head control that people who've been raped may experience traumatic flashbacks in that instance, so be careful) i'd reccomend before the first sexual encounter with a person (it should be unnessesary to say so afterwards) just to mention that they know to indicate in some way if you do something that they don't like/want. by verbally telling you, pushing you away, whatever. and it's a good idea to take things you havn't mentioned slowly (i'll use head-controling as an example again) for instance don't suddenly like, grab their head and force a tempo, but rather gently guide them to the right one slowly... nip a little before biting fully, et cetera. this practice gives them time to say "hey hey hey stoppit" before things go too far. and it dosn't kill the mood by talking about every little thing you like/don't like to do beforehand.

 

Two rules to help you out with any relationship/sex question you will ever have in the future :

1. Every single person is different. It's not about "what girls like", it's about what this girl likes.

2. Ask her.

 

As a female +1

Everyone is different and every day is different for women. One day she'll be into it and one day not so much. It is sexy, but not all the time. If you are endowed with a 9 incher like my husband, it's only fun an exciting sometimes when we're getting extra freaky.

 

They're all different. Some women won't have that at all, others will put up with it if a guy does it, some even like being controlled that way. Like others said, with this, take it slowly at first.

 

I recommend testing the waters first by caressing her head, running your fingers through her hair, then slowly increasing how hard your hand is holding her head until you are guiding it. Also, I think moving a girls head back and forth with your hands is awkward. I think its much better to gently hold her head still while you slowly, carefully, and not deeply, slide in and out between her lips. Do it for 5 seconds and then stop and let her continue. See what her reaction is.

 

IMhO, there is huge difference between holding her head and letting her do it all without any control from the guy. The difference is, if she is in total control, she is giving the guy the pleasure, but if he is controlling her head, then he is taking his own pleasure via her mouth. It's the same with her holding his head while he is giving her oral. If she lets him have total control, then he is giving her the pleasure, versus her taking it by controlling his head. Lots of times my wife will take some control when she starts to cum, but even then, if she lets me keep control, I give her a better orgasm than she would take for herself. Once you learn each others' body language, and how to respond to it, the need, or even desire, for control goes away.

 

Bump. I don't think enough women actually commented on this.

 

I think you got really good answers.

Personally, I don't really like it. A gentle touch, a guiding hand grasping hair is okay, but full on pushing, holding and controlling movement is a no-go in my book. I like to feel like I am giving pleasure not being forced to...especially since my mouth can only handle so much...

 

I don't mind at all if he's guiding my head, and setting the tempo he wants. Not really into having him hold my head and fuck my mouth although I have had one guy who was very controlled and slow so I didn't gag which was kind of fun, but otherwise no.
It is nice though when a guy lets you know what he likes, and what turns him on. Some guys like having their balls played with, some like lots of tongue flicking on the tip, and some don't really care as long as you let them put it in your mouth If he tells you what he likes then that makes it easier to please him.

 

i'm very into this.
i like knowing he's not afraid to control me.

 

Great post

 

Thanks

 

My friend is ok with some direction if a bit of hair pulling is involved. However, that just seems like a weird thing to me. Never in my life have I felt compelled to hold on to someone's head.

Plus she does her thing oh so well. When she want's it she takes it. Who am I to impede her? lol

 

When recieving head, I have no idea where to place my hands so its natural for me to put them on the back of her head. Thats if she decides to give quality head that last more than 30 secs.

As for the difference of with or without hands gesture. It's more of a domination over my partner type of mentality. Well for me it is. Then on the other hand, I dont want to do all the work here. Thats what the internet is for, read up and sharpen your skills.

It's also a guidance on how to tell your partner how you like it. Like to airplance people with the lights. This is where you'll lick, move your head here and suck.

Personally, I love when a woman grabs my head and buries it in her pussy.

 

It's ok if u don't abuse it well don't abuse it too much

 

Whener I receive Oral, most of the time I'll be giving it as well in a 6-9 situation, so the question of what to do with the hands doesn't arise.