I havent been on here is FOREVER, and since I have a burning question (well hell its prob cold by now, but it is still bugging the shit outta me) I wanted to get some opinions from outside my "circle". So, I met this guy "Dave" while I was in a shitty relationship with my sons dad, well call him "Larry". I broke up with my ex and proceeded to have a great relationship with Dave. About 5 months in, I hear that Larry is homeless and begging for money on the side of the road. We had a comfortable no contact relationship going, but being the kind head that I am, I broke the ice and reached out to him because I was worried. Im sure everyone else saw this coming, but Larry was out to get me back. Dave told me, that he was threatening our relationship and that I was putting him on the back burner, that I thought I was doing something good, for my son, when in reality he was trying to get me back. I ignored this of course, because maybe I didnt want to believe it. Then Dave, gets pretty stern about all this. I am very stressed with going to school, work, being a single mom, dealing with my boyfriend, my ex...I feel that breaking up with Dave was the easiest option. We were in love, but it was all getting to be too much. We did of course get back together, and I told Larry to back off. I was still assisting with helping Larry spend time with our son, but drawing clear lines. A few months later, Dave comes to me again that he feels I am not putting enough effort into the relationship and that he wants commitment. I let him go. I obviously had a past that was not closed. Even though I did not love Larry, there were loose ends. I finally tied these ends up in late June. I decided I wanted to be with Dave, if he would have me. Things have been really rough for me, I lost my job, stuck at home, and basically dwelling on this relationship I threw down the drain..I started calling and texting, not getting much response. Then we picked up a fragile communication. One night, we had been texting and for whatever reason I felt like I had something to prove. I drove to his house at 2 am. Everything felt just as good as ever, as if there was still a lot of passion there. We texted and called each other the entire week after that. He said he was going to spend his next day off with me, only he didnt, he gave me the run around all day. I told him that I needed some face time so that I could figure out where this was going and what I wanted to do. He assured me that he wanted to "start over" only the phone calls got sparse etc etc. Well, I let it ride for a while, still knowing I had things to say, finally I got my chance. I told him I was sorry for everything, that I had tried to move on, and I couldnt. That I wanted to start things over if he was into it. he said that instead of always discussing it, that he would rather acknowledge what happened, but stop talking about it. I was in no way rushing him, and in fact if he didnt want to do it, then to please just let me go. He once again said, yes, I want to start over. Then you guessed it, he didnt call again for a week. I texted him and we had a casual 5 minute convo and thats it. I try to play cool and give him space, but then I do get selfish and frustrated and just want to feel like he wants me. Life is too short to be unhappy, and frankly this "labor of love" is getting difficult. Im not a chaser. This brings us to now, I spoke to him on the phone a few days ago, and we had a nice "pleasant" convo, and he even commented on how nice it was and that this was a good start. I told him I had met ppl but that I am just not interested, and he told me that his love life was "stagnant"? I left him alone for a day then called last night, He hit the ignore button after 2 rings and did not call or text back. So, my question here is, wtf is he doing??? I understand being afraid to hurt someone, but why would you keep insisting that you want to start over, then just not do the damn thing??? I mean really. Am I wasting my time here? Could there be a legitimate reason for acting this way, such as the fact that I hurt him?? I know this is a lot of info, but damn, it is really getting the best of me, and I want some outside opinion...
Honestly it sounds to me like you gave him the run around before! Its on, its not on. I want you, I don't want you. Personaly I would want nothing to do with that. For myself it is on or it is not. Someone walks away I move on. Nobody is worth that stress in my life. Played that game for a while with a young girl after my marriage ended. Got old fast.
how the hell did you remember your password 7 years later? i don't know what he's doing. i understand wanting nothing to do with you after the way you treated him before, but it almost sounds like he's trying to get revenge for it now.
