I tried doing a Google search for the problem I'm facing and didn't get many results so I came across HipForums and decided to try my luck here. When I get sexually aroused I begin to feel ill. I will get a very strong nauseous feeling right around where my belly button is and feel as though I am going to throw up. It's an extremely uncomfortable feeling and definitely deters me from doing anything that would cause this feeling. Additional information - I do not get this feeling when I masturbate. I was also sexually molested growing up. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
THat's a bit confusing. You say you get ill when aroused but don't when you masturbate. How can you masturbate without arousal? If you mean the problem is there only when you are aroused by another person, then I'd say it is a mental thing related to the former abuse.
I am guessing here, but maybe you don't feel that way when you masturbate because you are in total control of the situation. Arousal with another person means that they could touch you in a way your molester did. Not sexy. I was molested, and I have had to tell my husband that there are things he simply can't do because it takes me right back there and there is no way to turn me on like that.
Icky feeling in pit of your stomach sounds like anxiety, psychological malaise from your past. It's not there when you masturbate because there's no danger of being abused. You need positive sexual experiences to balance out that negative past.
@dastud: I'm sorry, I worded it incorrectly. When I'm touched by someone in a sexual way, that's when the feelings start. @daisymae: That's one of the possibilities I was thinking of. If it's someone else doing those things to me, I'm not in control. It doesn't really seem to matter what they do though, it isn't any thing specific. Just a single touch will cause me to feel physically ill. @Mr.Writer - I have had I suppose what you could call "positive sexual experiences" and with someone I know would never harm me, but that doesn't seem to matter. I'll still feel compelled to cover my eyes and block everything out to avoid throwing up.
Sounds like your past is still haunting you and that is totally understandable! Might be a good idea to seek some professional help with this. You deserve to feel healthy and good about yourself no matter what happened to you in the past. You are not the bad person and the act that happened to you is not your fault.
Initially when I see or read or hear something that gets me horny, it is a major spasm pull type surge that comes in a wave low in my gut. It could be described as uncomfortable for a moment. Is it something like that?
@enhancer13 - Thank you. Yes I do plan on seeking some type of help soon. I'm unemployed at the moment and simply don't have funds to cover it. Hopefully speaking to a professional will help. @calgirl - Kind of. It's almost like a swirling sensation in the pit of my stomach. I get very nauseous and at times am afraid to open my mouth due to the fear of vomiting. It makes me very uncomfortable and almost as a response my brain shuts off and I will zone out.
@TheImaginaryBeing - It truly is. It's amazing as well the lengths our brains go through to protect us. I have tried fighting the feeling and assuring myself everything is fine, that I'm safe and this isn't like what happened in the past, but the sick feeling remains.
