Children and Parents

I haven't read her biography, so I don't know why a girl would abandon her friends at age 13. Doesn't sound like most teenage girls, textile or clothed. Maybe she had good reason. Was there social pressure from public school peers to be embarrassed about nudity? Some businesses get dysfunctional and nudist businesses are sometimes a failure too.
I have a friend whose parents were nudist but exceptionally bad parents who attended a poorly managed resort and she dropped out at 13. Suffice to say that I don't blame her in that particular case.

I know another guy whose daughter married a preacher and he poisoned her mind against naturism. I am not against religion, I've been in churches good and bad all my life, but sometimes there's a dark negative form of religiosity that condemns everything that makes life good and pleasurable. It rears its ugly head in many forms. This particular case raises all sorts of questions I don't have the answer to. Why did this woman reject everything she was raised to believe? Even those who waver (not just about naturism) may reject some things, but tend to return to the best of their upbringing. I hate to wish divorce on someone, but what would it take for this woman to find her voice again in the presence of this dark domineering husband? This doesn't have to be a naturist issue. It is a much broader problem.

But it is the exceptions we tend to remember. Of the teenagers I have seen who were started in it early and their families were stable and regular in attendance, these teens continued to participate in resort life, continued to be comfortable with nudity.

 

Thanks!

With Bianca (I remember her from the show but I thought her last name was Badham or something like that?) I guess maybe she didn't like feeling different to her textile friends.

When you're a teenage girl you really want to fit in and you are conscious of anything that makes you different from anyone else. So if you live at a nudist club and have family and adults and kids around you who are naked a lot of the time, and all your school friends know that but aren't having that same experience and don't understand it and maybe think it's weird - maybe she felt under a lot of pressure to be more like her textile friends and less like her family and so nudism became something she was no longer comfortable with.

She might have felt better about being a nudist if she'd had more nudist friends but my experience of nudism in the UK is that teenagers tend to be very isolated - there are a few little kids around, a few 20-somethings, but teenagers often seem to be on their own when brought to clubs with their families - nobody their own age, just little kids and adults to hang out with. So they don't get the reinforcement that would come from having nudist peers.

Also, when you're a teenager you often find your parents behaviour embarassing and you deliberately set out to make yourself different from them... so if your parents are nudists, you might want to make yourself different from that.

(I think it's no coincidence that I became a nudist when I was about 14/15 when none of my family had shown any interest in nudism or anything like that before - taking off my clothes for fun was a way in which I made myself different from my family and was a part of me finding my own identity... it wasn't something I thought my mum would approve of and part of the initial attraction was secretly doing something I thought was "forbidden". My relationship with my mum wasn't always good - but when she found my big secret and I opened up about my nudism with her it made us closer together. But before then I definitely thought I was rebelling by being a nudist).

I hope all that I just described doesn't happen with my family and I plan to do everything I can to create a nudity-positive home and have my kids grow up hopefully always feeling like nudism is something they want to be a part of.

But like nudony says, that's some way off yet, I don't even have kids yet!

 

our daughter is nude with us and shes very happy and clever!! ) we believe that is healthy

 

One of the biggest things I learned from my parents was that being different was okay and good in a lot of ways. In many ways they showed me to stand up for what I believe and respect other people's right to do the same.
They were not thinking about nudity, but in my late teens I got where my attitude was, "This is my body! I like it. I don't care whether you do or not!"
Confidence shows in every fiber of your being. When it came time to be naked, that was no longer a big deal, just what you do when you need a shower in camp or following a sports event. People may or may not like your looks, but they respect confidence. And there are people in this forum who are hip when everyone around them is some kind of right wing conformist. I salute them too!

Listen to Bob Marley sing "Stand up for your rights!

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nudony, yes, I agree with you

 

I remember watching it on Channel 4 years ago. I wonder what happened to the girl in the film (Bianca) and if she ever went back to nudism?

 

I was brought up in a very textile family. As a child I was 5 years junior to my sister and my father worked away in my early childhood. My mother never worried about me being seen naked but I can't ever remember seeing her or my sister naked. I simply was totally unprepared for situations involving nudity of others especially mixed sex nudity. School showers where about the total of it. As an adult myself and my first wife, with whom I had my only 2 children (both boys) where rarely nude together except for sex.

I am older, and may be wiser, now and if I had my time again I would choose to be unconcerned about being nude in front of other immediate family members from an early stage until they came to leave home. That doesn't mean strutting round in the buff when friends or relatives visit just allowing my children to learn to regard nudity as a normal part of everyday life, not hidden, neither encouraged nor discouraged.

I happen to live in a part of the world where the nearest CO beach is several hours drive away and the weather rarely good enough for sunbathing or outdoor swimming nude or costumed so nude recreation is very much a holiday treat. I have noticed that on most beaches where nudity is the norm there are few families, mainly couples and singles; mostly older like us.

My personal ideal, which won't happen, would be to be able to discard my swimsuit and not to be regarded as odd or perverted in anyway for simply being naked in any pool, beach or sauna. I don't mind if others are nude or clothed around me as long as they don't mind either. I can't think of any moral reason why society should not be like this.

 

not that OK with Child, I think

 

Maybe if no-one responded then the OP would go elsewhere.

 

I find no problem with it.My son had no issue,and I think it was because I raised him as a nudist.In our nudist group,we have a few kids,and when we come together as a group,they too are naked,as well as the teens among st us..In our own home,my son and I are always naked,and when his friends come over,we don't bother getting dressed any way.At first they found it odd,but with time got used to us being naked,and if we had clothes on when they came over,they said they rather preferred us naked...thats how they got to know us.

 

LIFE CAN BE ROUGH.

 

My parents raised me and my sibs in the nude, and it wasn’t perverted or anything, boundaries were set, and if any of us needed private time we could go to our rooms.

 

I self grew up nude and now my wife and I raise our Kids also nude, we love this lifestyle

 

THIS IS A SAAAD PROBLEM,HOPEFULLY SHE finds her voice again elsewhere.

 

No it helps them see its OK and no big deal

 

Nudity was something that we never hid at home, but it wasn't something that we did all the time. Except for me. I guess I was one of those kids that was always taking off her clothes. After awhile, my mom and dad just stopped telling me to get dressed, unless we had company. Door were open when we were changing, and if we saw each other walking down the hallway or in the rooms, we didn't hide it

 

Why shouldn't children be allowed to see their parents or other adults naked, or vice versa? It's a completely natural thing, and just because there are a few idiots who immediately view it as sexual, many people find nudism reprehensible! Only true nudists understand that it's not reprehensible for children to see an erection or a wet pussy – no one has ever died from it!

 

No and its completly unharmful!!