Well I'm still 17 for a couple months so not really, but in the last couple of years I've started becoming sexually attracted to girls that are a loooooot younger than me. 16, 15, 14, 13. I know girls this age dress extremely provocatively these days but sometimes it's girls even younger. I'm really fucking terrible at guessing ages but every once in awhile there's one that's gotta be like 10 or less and I just want to fuck their brains out (and have a relationship with them, which I know is terribly unpractical but the point is that it's not purely sexual). Respond if you want (positive/negative is appreciated), but just venting this makes me feel better so whatever.
Don't worry about it I think it's normal for a guy at 17 years old to feel attraction to girls within 7 years down from your age and a few decades up, and I think part if it is the fact that you're peaking from a biological hormonal perspective. (this affects other emotions as well, not just lust) I went through something similar when I was your age, but when i hit my twenties it kind just faded and younger girls (10-15) just didn't hold my interest anymore. Also I didn't leer or touch the younger girls (10-14) at all in anyway when I was 17 and I also didn't do any sexting because that stuff just winds up online and gets you in jail. And now I'm even starting to lose interest in the age group 15-18 crowd. If you find that you are in your twenties though and still feel a strong sexual attraction to 10 year olds though....you might be a hebophile, someone attracted to the preteens (10 and up) Pedophile, from a clinical definition, means you are attracted to infants, toddlers, and children under age 10. So if this persists and you are experiencing attraction to kids under the definition of a pedophile, you might be one.
^Dang that was informative, thank you. Actually didn't expect a thorough answer like that. The whole 'this thing will pass' didn't even occur to me haha.
It seems fucked to me that a 17 year old would want to fuck a 10 year old... But I'm a female and clearly don't have the brain of a male. Yuk.
I think it's ok to look at high school age girls but younger than that is wrong they are still children and should have their experiences with other children. That being said at 13 if a 17 yr old guy was hot and wanted some he could've done what ever he wanted with this but it still woulda been wrong
That's really stereotypical and sexist. Women can be pedarests/hebophiles/pedophiles, too. You're just feeding into the whole puritan-feminist backwards ass biases that sex = dirty = male. Furthermore; OP can't control how he feels, so your reaction is just plain cold and heartless. If worst case scenario, this isn't a phase, he will very likely go through his life feeling tortured, cursed, alienated and stigmatized. You think anyone would choose that? Remember OP; there's nothing wrong with fantasies. Often, the true problem with dreams comes in the trying to realize them. Some things just don't belong in reality; and it's best to go through life causing as little trouble for yourself and others. We only get a short time, and there's no reason to bring more negativity into this cruel affair of life. If things only go south from here, the best thing you can do is practice restraint when it comes to these fantasies. And you can in no circumstances act on such fantasies without causing irreparable, likely serious harm. If need be get help. Likely though; this is only a phase. You are still at the age where your hormones are going wild; and your brain is forming it's sexual identity. Don't stress it too much unless it starts to cause you any real trouble. Picking at a scab only makes it worse.
All I know is that as a 17yo female I certainly never wanted to fuck a child, a ten year old being just that. Whereas it seems to be considered almost normal for a male. Now I'm not saying there aren't women who don't harbour such attractions, but I can bet It's rarer than their male counterparts. I would most certainly hope it is a passing fad. I'm giving feedback as per his request.
I suspect males might find younger females attractive in their late teens probably because the mental development hasn't kind of happened yet...and this explains why the inverse is not true as a general rule for women on younger boys, because women need to feel that the guy can get them or keep up with them mentally and emotionally. (some will argue that boys can't even keep up mentally with girls their own age though) I'm sure older females can admit that a lot of their opposite sex peer group is, or tends to, be a lot more emotionally and mentally behave a LOT more juvenile than them. From a scientific perspective, puberty is starting younger and younger for girls because of all the hormones in our meat and food, so I'm actually not surprised from a chemical-biological perspective why some older guys rader starts picking up 10 and up for a small period of time while they are still shaping their own sexual identity. Also I'd like to point out that I never acted out on any of my fantasies and the OP seems to be on the same trajectory that I followed. BUT if the attraction to that age group doesn't fade...then there might be a problem. Also our biology hasn't changed much since the 1st century, so if men could get turned on by girls as young as 10 then, the ability should still be there in humans today, it's just we shouldn't act on it. I mean girls were betrothed super young as well. What changed was western culture's understanding and thus expectations of what was the acceptable for children to endure (child labor, and marriage/sex) being the prime example of them not being ready, physically or mentally. Don't forget history guys it still applies to a certain extend to modern phenomena.
There really is something wrong with a 17yr old wanting to fuck a 10yr old that's just sick and weather the person is a man or woman it's still very wrong. At ten ur still very much a child and for someone to want to take that away from someone else is fucked up. If a 17yr old tried to get with my ten year old I'd show them what true sexual depravity is.
And my previous post begs the question if the increasing pedophile trends in criminology studies is linked to the pollution in our environment screwing up the brain's natural development of what an individual finds attractive. (aka: pollution screwing with the endocrine system) Scientists have already discovered this to be true in animals like fish in rivers having both male and female sex organs when they aren't supposed to and finding pollution in their habitats.
I agree that it isn't right. But I'm just explaining and hypothesizing why we get the emotions or attractions we do or don't. And I also want to highlight that the OP specifically said he also wanted a relationship in his fantasies so it might not have just been physical appeal but mental maturity appeal as well. (man I'm kinda implying that a 17 year old might have the mental maturity of a 10 year old aren't I, no offense but I guess I am making that claim) The important thing is to not act on it though and recognize it's a phase if you have it, and move on. If it's not a phase and it stays with you something is wrong. And the OP realized his fantasy was totally impractical, so he's not delusional. If he was there is cause for concern.
Some of these replies are a lot more conservative than I would expect for a hippy forum. I would say with the hormone levels of a 17 year old it's pretty normal. He is not acting on these thoughts, trying to fight them can make them grow into an unhealthy obsession, realizing that they aren't unnatural but that he should not act on them is probably best.
I'm not so sure about this... there are a lot more women teachers that get involved with male high school students than I could possibly imagine until I started teaching. now this is between older women and males 17 or 18, but the idea is still the same... it can happen with men and women and we probably do not know the frequency. That being said, there is also a long history of children being defined at a much younger age. We say people are children till they are teenagers, but in reality this is a modern concept. Boys became men at the age of 12 and started working, and by the time they were 18 - 20 were marrying girls who were 12-14 depending on the culture. I am not condoning sex with a 10 year old, but this idea that a 12 year old is not ready for sex because their still a child? That is only true in modern times, and in my opinion because we still treat them like children. Now this is not to say it is a good idea now, but historically men at 20 - 24 marrying girls who were much much younger.
you've been here for 8 years and this is the first time you're noticing that hippies post here along with conservatives, moderates, and everyone else?
For a 17, I can see 12 or 13 possibly being attractive to you. At 12 or 13 they are probably women. But 10?!? Really? That might come off as being just a BIT strange......
I would not call finding someone who is attracted to a ten year old when that person is seventeen disgusting, conservative.
I don't think sex for the 10-12 year old range in reality is or was ever a good idea at all in fact I condone it. If I were a father I'd be extremely protective of any of my kids (male or female). But I thought my comment earlier was addressing emotions and negative self guilt that both OP and I experienced at the same age. To me you really shouldn't judge especially if it's just a phase. I suspect this phase is a lot more common, but most people don't act on it and don't voice that the attraction exists for a year or two before fading and maturing into their own individual. And it might happen at earlier ages and fade out for others, could happen at 13-15 for others, and then fade out later. Point is everybody's mental and physical development is different.
