Women think (and act) with their penis alot more than men actually.

I do agree that there needs to be more proof than just one youtuber, personal experience, and a few okcupid polls/blogs though.

I was just saying those points that were raised in those videos, raise some good questions that do have some logical merit to explore.

And I think the problem will overlap with another topic raised in a thread I created about how pop culture (romance novels, movies etc.) over glorifies and thus influences romantic sterotypes and real life expectations.

And let's face it TONS of romance novels sell well...

(unrelated sidenote: but I think cookbooks still hold the #1 type of book that sells though)

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I will say though as a man in my mid-20's that I will avoid marriage and a family life if I don't find someone who meets what I'm looking for though (looks and personality) that complement my own.

But I also acknowledge that lots of men also aim way to high or don't carry their own weight too. Or expect to much freetime after coming off from work.

 

What does compliment one's personality mean? How about compatible people? I had this discussion with a friend the other day. He sees it as a type of harmony between two people. Where it kind of flows and there isn't a discomfort. It doesn't imply that they have everything in common, but moreso that each can allow the other to have desires without interfering.

In my view, that is just plain unrealistic. Inevitably life changes, and for two people to absorb the infinite number of variables that life entails takes more than harmony with one another.

So what few things do you think make men / women compatible? These days, I think's it more about problem solving. Can each SOLVE independently and can they do it together?

 

I think complementary couples will still fight they'll just be able to compromise mutually and both parties make the effort to understand the others point of view and gain respect for it. Instead of fostering resentment.

For that to happen both individuals need a certain level of completeness already in their lives, but what makes the couple work is that together as a team their even better.

 

It goes deeper than that. If you make online dating profiles of exceptionally handsome men, women rarely mention the man's looks. A guy will rarely be called anything better than cute and they will never suspect the photos don't belong to you.

Here is the scale of how men are treated on dating websites with respect to their looks:

8.5-10 - cute
7-8.5 - "I'll give you a chance"
5-6.5- human
1-5 - cockroach







I made profiles of these guys and only 1/600 girls who messaged "them" had a shred of doubt that the profile was fake and she was born in the Ukraine. I normally tell girls the profile is fake right afterwards and they're always surprised. Some of them laugh it off while others are more angry. Of course, I didn't use these photos and I used more normal/everyday ones but the point still stands.

When a girl says her boyfriend isn't "conventionally attractive" or he's "average looking", know that they're using a very different scale than we are.

 

Oh puh lease. try some other story than the childhood victim line.

such women might think the price is worth paying. that a macho manipulator is a kind of prize that they hang on to. after all, he's always threatening to leave and so if he hasn't left them yet, they must be special.

sound crummy? yes it is. but men do it too, not just the girls.

 

well, you're a person with weird preferences.

yeah, that's another thing. why are women so attracted to gay guys?

 

sorry, i never wear pants when sandwich-making and i'm not about to start now.

 

^You're certainly entitled to your preferences on what you find attractive or don't, but the logic behind not wanting a certain genetic outcome for your offspring is a bit...I don't know what to say, flawed?

The reason is genetics are so complex to the point where you can try to increase your chances I guess for certain eye color in your offspring from your mate selection, but it's not a guarantee.

Also having good teeth, hard to tell who naturally has a good smile and coloring from genetics and all those whitenings and braces people get nowadays.


But other than this I don't see a problem with your statement.

 

As long as you love your kids unconditionally no matter how they turn out I think that's all society can really ask for.

I was just saying genetics are funny things, that's all.

Also I hope you don't have a superiority complex...like what fueled the whole blonde hair blue eyes being superior which fueled a lot of nasty events in history.

If it's just preference, for preference sake, it's fine.