The Girl I Like Suddenly Ignores Me Completely

Hi, i am 18 and i study in high school. Its gonna be a very long post so please bear with me. I studied in an all-boy school since i was 7. And now in 18 only I get the chance to feel what its like in a coed school. Honestly, I have never interacted with any girls since I left kindergarten. I am just an average looking guy and i am in the 'not bad' region when it comes to academic results. Recently, a group of girls from the other class started looking at me for no apparent reason and one day when i went into their class to chat with my friend, a girl from the group suddenly said "hey look, [insert celebrity name] is in our class". Then she said, "hey,[my name], you really look like [the celebrity's name]". I was surprised at first, because i dont know any of these girls at all. At first, i didnt greet them or what when i see them in school cuz i dont know what kind of reaction i might get. Then one day, a subject teacher from their class was on a leave and our class was merged for that one day. In class, they attracted my attention by calling the celebrity's name out loud. I looked over to them and they looked at me and smile. Since then, i started greeting them in school whenever i see any of them.

There are 3 girls in that group that i notice. Girl A is the one who started all that so of course i notice her, but she is the girl i rarely greet because she tend to look away when she sees me in school like in a corridor. Girl B is my best friends' friend, they met in military service, and one day when my best friend came back from military service, he asked me and the gang to catch a movie. Apparently he asked her to join too. Thats the first time i saw her but i never engaged in any conversation with her at all. I usually greet her when i see her in school but not when she is with her friends that i dont know. Then there is Girl C. The one girl that melts my heart the first time i saw her in school. She is pretty and is the only one girl that i look out for in school especially during recess times or assembly. I always try to greet her when i see her. I really like her but i dont know if its the same with her.

One day, they added me on facebook. I accepted and we became friends. I have never chatted with Girl A in facebook because i know she has a boyfriend. Girl B chats with me quite a lot because she usually initiates the convo. Girl C i only chatted with her 3 times because she rarely online, maybe because she is a hardworking girl. And its me who initiate the convo everytime i see her online.

Coincidentally, Girl B and Girl C is also going to the same cram school as me. But we rarely greet each other because they always come late into the class and did not have time to look at the whole class and need to sit down immediately because the teacher is teaching in front. They have their own group of girls in front there reserving place for them. Or else i would have asked them to sit with me. Because they sit in front, they are usually the first ones to leave the classroom. And by the time i got out, they are nowhere to be seen.

Then one day in recess, Girl B and Girl C was sitting right next to my table, and i was sitting alone at the time. They asked me to join them and so i did. We talked up something and i feel comfortable speaking to them. Especially Girl C. The next day, the 3 girls asked me to hang out with them. I was shocked cuz i had never had a girl ask me out in my life. I initially said i am not sure if i am free that night and they asked me to take my time and think of it. The next day, i told them its ok with me. They looked kinda happy. But i told them i have transport problem, but thankfully the venue of our hang out spot is just a walk away from my house. Then Girl C said she will be glad to fetch me. I said ok of course. Girl A and Girl B lives quite near to my neighbourhood so Girl C says she will fetch all of us in one go. She lives quite far though.

 

So that night, we hanged out together, though i didnt speak much because of the presence of Girl A as i dont really know her well. Then when its time to go home, Girl C fetches everyone home and i was the last one in the car because
my house is linked to the road she uses to go home. In that brief few minutes, we had a pretty good conversation. And when we reached our house, before leaving the car, i said to her : "Its so late in the night and a girl like you driving alone is dangerous. Too bad i cant fetch you home. So remember to see if there is any car following you. See you in school tomorrow". And i said goodbye to her and she also said goodbye.

OK so before all this happened, in school, Girl C stands out the most among the girls because she is really really pretty. And i thought i am a very lucky average looking guy who gets to know her and with the privilege of being fetched by her is just totally insane. Sometimes she smiles at me, and i notice sometimes when i am talking to my friends, i see her looking at me and smiling to me. I smiled at her and wave at her in situations like this. And i am pretty convinced that she likes me too because i heard from Girl B that even though they are close, they have never hanged out together. I was surprised. She says its a miracle she will want to hang out suddenly as in the past, they asked her to hang out together but she always had excuses. So i thought maybe because i am also hanging out that makes her join the party.

But something changed after the night that we hanged out. All 3 girls started ignoring me in the school in the next day. I am used to Girl A ignoring me because when she feels like it, she will greet me and when she dont, she just ignores me. Then, Girl B, who i usually say good morning to when i see her in school, also started ignoring me. She talks to her friends in a group and when she looks at me, i said good morning but she just nods and continues to chat with her friends. Its even more weird as she didnt chat with me again after that night in facebook. Its like im alienated by them. Then, its Girl C. The girl which i really like. She ignores me when she sees me. She used to look at my direction when we are in an assembly. She looks to the opposite direction instead nowadays. Which makes saying good morning an almost impossible task.

But the most heartbreaking thing is, when we pass by each other, i looked at her and said hi, but she walked straight as if she doesnt know me at all. To add insult to injury, it was a narrow hallway too. Its really sad for me. I mean, for a girl that you really like to ignore you suddenly, and did not even bother to look at me... I can bear with Girl A and B ignoring me but Girl C ignoring me is too much for me to bear.

I suddenly felt like the world is a cruel place. I know i did not do anything wrong. I know i did not say anything wrong. But why are they doing this to me? They were the ones who started all this and suddenly they want nothing to do with this. If i knew things like this would happen, i'd rather not known any of them and being keep being strangers. I'd rather not have spoken to my crush and now she does'nt want to speak to me. I am feeling kinda depressed now. I cant tell any of my friends about it because i am afraid they might tell other people. So please people, give me some advice and tell me did i do anything wrong? I really want to go straight up to her and ask her whats wrong but i am afraid its gonna make matters worse. In just a night's time it feels like everything has changed. What should i do now? Sorry for the long post. I really need someone to know my situation and give me advises on what to do now.

 

My Guess Is, The Reason The Girl You Like Is Ignoring You,

Is Because You Spend Countless Hours On The Internet Typing This Crap...



Cheers Glen.

 

Either Glen is right,


or your whole last line of:
"Its so late in the night and a girl like you driving alone is dangerous. Too bad i cant fetch you home. So remember to see if there is any car following you. See you in school tomorrow"

It's just creepy, and it ruined the vibe of having a fun time. So now girl C told girl B and A the last thing you told her, and your now wearing the label of creepy and clingy, when you were TRYING to be polite I guess.

(note: this is common example of why guys 'nice guys' fail with women and the more badboy kinda guys, don't give off the vibe of creepy)

Too late now, you've blown it, move on. There is no way to fix it, absolutely none.

 

Keep looking. By the time you get to girl "Z", something will happen.

 

Yeah.. women with that secrecy stop talking to you ish. I hate that. Ladies, what's up with that? Why you gotta keep it a secret? (I'm actually looking for a serious answer here). If I were you, tbh I would've confronted Girl C in that hallway. I hate wasting my mental time on stuff like this.

 

I don't think it's their intent to keep it a secret necessarily, but girls prefer to just flee from any danger and awkward situations.

If I had to guess, they do it because they think they're sending a message without having to confront you verbally which I think is more awkward for them.

 

yes, this really does sound creepy, and you have a point about the 'nice guy' easily becoming the 'creepy guy'

 

you live in Malaysia? just a guess

 

don't get it :S

 

Yeah I don't get it either.

Anyway I'm glad someone read my reply. I'm starting to think the OP is just one of those posters who starts a topic and then we never hear from them again.

 

well, like, why on earth would he wait for better answers than "you're a creep for talking to girls, girls like guys who never talk to them and only say the normal people things". I mean, what better answer could he have hoped for? He was clearly satisfied by that perfect advice and had no reason to revisit a solved case. Case closed.

 

the way he writes english leads me to believe hes from malaysia. simple

 

guys... thanks for the reply... they suddenly talked to me again yesterday... its driving me crazy... i did not ask them if they were ignoring me or what... i just talked casually... then today they just started to ignore me again... seriously what the hell are they thinking??? i might need to consult a psychologist if things like this carry on.....

 

I was like that too, up until very recently. It's exciting and frustrating and great and painful when you first start developing potential romances and even just opposite sex friendships.

I can tell you, though, that the clingy obsessive thing is a real turn off to a lot of women. You don't have to be a straight jerk or anything but don't be all "I NEEEEEEEEEEED YOOOOOOOOOUUUU". It's pathetic. I almost lost my current gf because I was like this because of my first gf, but things have changed and cooling off and stepping back is a huge relief for both them AND you.

Don't be creepy, man. These girls aren't your life and you're 18! Just have a good time don't get so attached so soon.

 

CherokeeMist, as a female what's your input on the girls behavior? More specifically them talking to him then giving him the silent-I-don't-know-you treatment the next?

I'm telling the OP to just not overthink it, let the girls talk to him but don't stress when they don't give him attention.

I think they're just flexing their newfound power of attraction, but it's possible they're setting him up on purpose. But I think we need a female opinion here.

 

Yeah we do need a female opinion.

I am not a female.

It's cool, but you say that shit again I'mma knock you out

 

Me me me! I'll give you a reason. First, females that do the "silent...." suck, and I pride myself on not being one of them. Second, the reason they do it is because they stupid and shallow. It's too humane for them to articulate why things aren't going to work out so instead they run because they're lazy and cruel.

 

Well that makes complete sense, and thanks for not being one of them.


But I have to ask, it seems to me that not all of them know they are conscious that they are being cruel; some are but others aren't.

 

It is probably that they just aren't very smart, or empathetic, or emotional. Simple minded, one dimensional, easily pleased.